Get over the shame and the lack of confidence and the fear of failure and the imposter syndrome. Nobody cares. Some people are cruel and mean and love to watch others fail. So what? Do you really want to prove them right? Get the fuck up, weβre chasing our dreams like our lives depend on it because, in case you forgot, they do.
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βYou write the beginning and then you go back and rewrite the beginning, and you never got off page one. Itβs kind of a syndrome, and I have a rash piece of advice which is β Go on, page two, page three, and never look back. Get something finished, no matter how lousy it is. [β¦] Perfectionists cannot get going unless they kind of do violence to their own instincts, and just blast ahead.β
β Ursula K. Le Guin, The Last Interview and Other Conversations
You know, when I've remarked that a lot of the responses to my posts feel like people are just plucking out keywords they think they recognise based on the shape of them and replying to what they imagine the post says based on that, the possibility never occurred to me that this is actually how many American schools are currently teaching kids to read.
Like, my assumption this whole time has been that when folks go "I misunderstood this post that says [thing] as saying [unrelated thing] because I mistook [word] for [completely different word that happens to start with the same letter]", that was a bit. What do you mean they're teaching kids a reading method that's tailored to produce this exact error?
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hot take comments like "I hope I get cyclosporiasis I want to lose 10 lbs" are not only obvious fatphobia but also part of mass illness normalization that has been an ongoing effort since 2020 to minimize the dangers of disease and infections
They want to act like high levels of sickness whether it be airborne or foodborne are normal and not the responsibility of agencies like public health or food safety regulation so they can get away with dismantling them.
"No one's going to die," they say. Factually incorrect and honestly we don't have good data on what a society that's normalized explosive diarrhea looks like, but y'all have an idea what the cholera era looked like, right?
Mass disease is not normal and preventable. One of the number one causes is how large agricultural companies refuse to treat their employees like humans: people picking the food you eat don't have bathrooms, so when they get sick, they're left with a choice to shit their pants and get back to work or squat in the field and get back to work. I know which I'd choose in their shoes...
Mass illness isn't just a public health issue, it's a workers' rights issue and more!
Excerpt from Section 9: The Factory Acts. Sanitary and Educational Clauses of the same. Their General Extension in the Workplace.
βWhat could possibly show better the character of the capitalist mode of production, than the necessity that exists for forcing upon it, by Acts of Parliament, the simplest appliances for maintaining cleanliness and health? In the potteries the Factory Act of 1864 βhas whitewashed and cleansed upwards of 200 workshops, after a period of abstinence from any such cleaning, in many cases of 20 years, and in some, entirely,β (this is the βabstinenceβ of the capitalist!) βin which were employed 27,800 artisans, hitherto breathing through protracted days and often nights of labour, a mephitic atmosphere, and which rendered an otherwise comparatively innocuous occupation, pregnant with disease and death. The Act has improved the ventilation very much.β [214]
At the same time, this portion of the Act strikingly shows that the capitalist mode of production, owing to its very nature, excludes all rational improvement beyond a certain point. It has been stated over and over again that the English doctors are unanimous in declaring that where the work is continuous, 500 cubic feet is the very least space that should be allowed for each person. Now, if the Factory Acts, owing to their compulsory provisions, indirectly hasten on the conversion of small workshops into factories, thus indirectly attacking the proprietary rights of the smaller capitalists, and assuring a monopoly to the great ones, so, if it were made obligatory to provide the proper space for each workman in every workshop, thousands of small employers would, at one full swoop, be expropriated directly!
The very root of the capitalist mode of production, i.e., the self-expansion of all capital, large or small, by means of the βfreeβ purchase and consumption of labour-power, would be attacked. Factory legislation is therefore brought to a deadlock before these 500 cubic feet of breathing space. The sanitary officers, the industrial inquiry commissioners, the factory inspectors, all harp, over and over again, upon the necessity for those 500 cubic feet, and upon the impossibility of wringing them out of capital. They thus, in fact, declare that consumption and other lung diseases among the workpeople are necessary conditions to the existence of capital. [215]
βFor Hegel, the acculturation of blacks (made possible by their forced removal from Africa and enslavement in the Americas) was essential for their mobility within the Eurocentric hierarchy of human life, and labor was their route to salvation. When blacks left the plantations and sought political freedom they, significantly, argued that their labor in the colonies (read: greater proximity to European culture and economy) justified the ways in which they articulated their freedom. Specifically, they argued that, through their labor, they had not only transformed the land to produce contemporary societies, economies and cultures but they had transformed themselves into the rightful owners of the colony. This position with regard to work is also very clearly articulated in early post-independence documents put forward by formerly indentured peoples, who claimed that their labor βsavedβ the colonies after blacks literally left the work behind; thus, they too had a right to both inherit and rule. Indigenous peoples, on the other hand, were not similarly humanized through labor nor did they transform βterraβ into property or state. Thus, they could not claim the product of labor, i.e. the colony and the eventual nation-state that would emerge, to retroactively cement the freedom of the formerly enslaved and indentured. By essentially embracing and transforming the very terms of their subordination β labor for Europeans β blacks affirmed Hegelβs conception that they could only be human by engaging with Western society. They also affirmed Marxβs belief that the rationalization of European forms of labor was the true source of social and individual freedom. For Hegel, Africa was a land of βchildhoodβ that had to be left behind because it was deemed unproductive for European humanity and society. Thus when blacks were forced to labor out of Africa, they could officially begin the work for European humanity and the transformation of global economic systems into fully capitalist ones.β
β Shona N. Jackson, Humanity beyond the Regime of Labor: Antiblackness, Indigeneity, and the Legacies of Colonialism in the Caribbean
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Do you ever think about how both Lolita and Interview with the Vampire the book involve protagonists losing the pseudo-daughter girl they long to wholly possess because they underestimated the power of community theatre
I write these words with a broken heart. To those who read this and choose to ignore it, you can simply scroll past, but I am living through the most difficult moments of my life. My husband is slowly dying before my eyes. Due to a severe head and jaw injury, he has been unable to eat or drink for over a week, his weight has dropped to just 39 kilograms, and he is suffering from severe, life-threatening malnutrition.
The doctors confirmed he needs urgent surgery, but we can't afford the operation and treatment. I feel helpless watching him weaken day by day, while time is running out.π
I'm not asking for the impossible; I'm simply asking for a chance to save his life. Please, if you can't donate, don't hesitate to share our story. It might reach someone who can give him a new lease on life.ππ
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>a wild therapist has entered the chat
you need an additional coping mechanism
studying the blade is a DBT principle called Building Mastery - wherein you engage in anything that is practical during which you gain skill and can actively see yourself progress - which is resilience building technique by which you shore yourself against vulnerability factors that make it harder to regulate emotions and manage activities of daily life and interpersonal interactions effectively. if you continue to study the blade while engaging in therapy, it will in fact make your therapeutic session more effective because having a skill that you pursue builds self-esteem and is a foundation upon which other coping skills can be built.
so not better coping skills, blademaster, additional ones.
you are already heading in the right direction and you have proven you have the tenacity to apply yourself to one discipline. now show us what you can do when applying yourself to your healing.
It's been a long time but I'm sharing a yummy pasta recipe I've been working on lately!! Let me know if you guys try it/enjoy it π₯Ήπ«Ά
walnut cream pasta recipe
(lighter alfredo / mac n cheese)
basic ingredient list:
homemade walnut milk, nutritional yeast and/or cheese of choice, drop of vegetable oil, salt & pepper, (other optional seasonings to taste)
(Full recipe under the cut!!)
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Intro:
This is basically a lighter cream pasta recipe that is MUCH easier and MUCH healthier than traditional culinary methods!! (dairy and saturated fat is no joke, man... I've loved cream pasta all my life but it puts me right to sleep now... I literally cant eat it anymore o(-< )
It replaces the typical cream/butter/roux that forms the base of traditional cream pasta/alfredo/mac n cheese with homemade walnut milk, made by blending raw walnuts & water(that's it!!) Need y'all to get on walnut milk as a cream replacement in cooking fr it's crazy... Walnuts are super good for you, so I'm trying to eat more, but I cant stand the bitterness/texture so it's hard... but blending them into milk/cream solves both the texture & taste problem... The texture is just as creamy and smooth as real cream (given u blend it thoroughly), and you can't taste the bitterness at all mixed w the other strong savory flavors; it only adds creaminess & a delicious mild nuttiness.
Full Ingredients (with detailed notes):
homemade walnut milk: forms the base of the sauce; made by blending raw walnuts and water until a creamy milk-like/cream-like consistency. Alternatively, use cashew milk made with the same method, but walnuts are much healthier than cashews fyi! cashew cream has a very creamy & lightly sweet taste, & works equally well
nutritional yeast/brewer's yeast: (i use around 2 tsp i think; add more to taste. Can omit and use only cheese if you don't have it! Nutritional yeast is v good for you so I'm trying to eat more of it, but it's totally optional)
cheese of choice: ~2 spoonfuls, or to taste. for alfredo sauce, use parmesan(parmigiano reggiano) and/or pecorino romano cheese. For macaroni & cheese, use cheddar (or something similar.) Feel free to use vegan cheese!
~1/2 tsp vegetable oil (canola oil, olive oil, avocado oil etc) (per serving): makes it super creamy, just like traditional alfredo/mac n cheese; recommended, but can omit for a lighter texture
salt and black pepper to taste: Important..! If it's salty enough after adding cheese u can omit, but a pinch of salt can sometimes make or break a dish!
- optional: minced or granulated garlic to taste
- optional: parsley for garnish
- optional: any veggies to add in; customize as you like
Note: personally, I'm not vegan and much prefer using real cheese for the taste, but it is possible to use ONLY nutritional yeast-- that's definitely the most healthy & lightest option. However, I found that using only nutritional yeast didn't satisfy my taste standards... felt like it was missing something... So for vegans I think it would taste better to also add vegan cheese! (Unless you don't mind the taste of pure nutritional yeast, of course)
I've tried using both parmesan(for alfredo) and cheddar(for mac n cheese) and both were delicious~
Instructions:
First make the walnut cream:
- add some walnuts and water to a blender (I dont measure... i just add the walnuts, and then add enough water until the walnuts are submerged and floating, and it roughly looks like there's a 2:1 ratio of water to walnuts visually?)
- blend until completely smooth and a creamy milk-like consistency. taste & adjust until the consistency is right; add more water if too thick, more walnuts if too thin. should be liquid, but taste buttery & creamy- if it burns the back of your throat that's normal for walnuts. You won't taste that at all in the actual dish, i promise. If your blender is strong enough, no need to strain (and it keeps the fiber in!). Even if there are tiny bits of walnut, I honestly think it adds a nice texture, but you can try straining it if you want. Store leftover in the fridge!
For 1 serving:
Add some walnut cream to a bowl, proportional to the amount of sauce you'd like to eat with your serving of pasta.
Then add the vegetable oil, pinch salt & pepper*, nutritional yeast, & optional garlic. (*u could add salt & pepper at the end, but from experience i know i'll need a pinch of salt, so I just add it here). (i don't measure btw)
Cover and microwave for 30 sec, then mix well with chopsticks until creamy & smooth.
Then add the cheese of choice and mix well. If the cheese doesn't melt, microwave 15-20 sec more or until it's melted. (For parmesan cheese, I found that I didn't need to.)
^I didn't measure the amount of cheese but that's how much i added (parmesan)... + a light sprinkling on top at the end as garnish.
After that taste and adjust if needed but... The sauce is done!! that's really it!!! (You can increase the ingredient amounts if making more servings and heat it on the stovetop (on low heat) too if you want.)
All that's left is to add to hot pasta...
(I normally start with boiling the water for the pasta before doing anything else, and make this easy sauce while the pasta is cooking. Make sure you salt the water!! I add about a tsp of salt and make several servings of pasta at once (saving any leftover pasta in the fridge). I make the sauce right before eating because it's easy, but you can also make a bigger batch and save in the fridge for later too.)
AAAND IT'S DONE!!! YAAAY
ENJOY THE RICH & CREAMY DELICIOUSNESS OF ALFREDO/MAC N CHEESE WITHOUT FEELING LIKE TOTAL CRAP AFTERWARD!!! It's crazy being able to eat a bowl of cream pasta and not feel like I'm going to fall asleep after... Thank you walnut cream for my life...