'Quiet' or 'Acting In' Borderline Personality Disorder Subtype

Depressive Logical Mistakes

–All or Nothing Deciding that falling slightly short of your goals makes you a total failure

–Overgeneralization “Because it worked out badly one time, it will work out badly every time.”

–Mental Filter Allowing a single small negative detail to block out all the good details

–Disqualifying the Positive Saying that positive experiences or evidence “don’t count” for some reason

–Mind-Reading Assuming other people think negatively of you without evidence

–Fortune-Telling Making a negative prediction and then taking it as an established fact, before the fact

–Catastrophizing Exaggerating the importance of a minor mistake

–Minimizing Disregarding the importance of your qualities or accomplishments

–Emotional justification “I feel hopeless, therefore things are hopeless”

–Should, Must, and Ought Disregarding the way things are in favor of how things “should be”

–Mislabeling “I failed once, so I’m a total Failure.” Or, “He was mean to me once. He’s a fucking Asshole.”

–Personalization Taking [responsibility] for things you don’t actually have control over

When you catch yourself thinking this way, take a step back and ask yourself:  “Is this really true, or am I stuck in a loop?”

Simple stories are inherently false. Life is complicated, and perspective matters.

When life seems overwhelming, remember the Buddhist saying: “The correct way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.”

And remember:

You can handle this.

Inner child is the version of you that was triggered for the very first time. Typically people with BPD also have complex PTSD and continue to get triggered again and again as they grow up. The inner child still lives inside and that's why we experience an insane amount of sensitivity over arguably seemingly small things.

If you develop a relationship with the inner child you learn to respond to your triggers and trauma with grace and a gentleness you would a child.

When in touch with your inner child you learn to do things you enjoy again and to purge awful memories of the abuse that created this mess in the first place.

I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE HOLYYYYYYYYYYY HEK.