queerly beloved

Thanks for sharing! This really highlights a collection of reasons why it’s important to not create these arbitrary rules to who can and can’t come in. 

Honestly, on a more serious note, the number of times in the past few years someone who was assumed to be straight wrote a gay storyline and loads of people kept talking about how they wrote their gay characters in a straight way because they were straight only for the author to end up publicly coming out due to all the pressure should probably lead at least some people to reevaluate whether their ‘straightdar for authors based on how they write gay people’ is truly always accurate lmao.

#ok listen to me: this is not about whether you personally like iced coffee and enamel pins or not#it’s about how the queer movement has been co-opted by middle-class teenagers and turned from a political cause into an aesthetic#it’s about how a community that’s historally about radically accepting those Othered and marginalised now asks people to assimilate#to their standards of queerness at the risk of being outed#it’s about how status symbols of class and disposable income (which iced coffee and enamel pins ultimately are)#are used to gauge your performance of your queerness

"gnc straight man being called a faggot doesn't experience homophobia" what the fuck are you talking about. there's absolutely no logic in anything like that. we have kids who literally killed themselves because of homophobic abuse in schools and you would dare to tell them it isn't homophobia that killed them because they weren't actually gay? insane. and so fucking cruel

have to say once more.. bigender people who are both men and women get no respect or consideration cause yall make us just women or just men depending on which one will invalidate our arguments or make us sound like oppressors, and none of yall can figure out how to fit us into your gender politics bc acknowledging us as real men AND real women would require understanding that men and women are not fully different, separate and opposite groups. bigender m+w means you cant group everyone into “men and non-men” and act like these are coherent categories. bigender m+w means you will need to let bigender wlw talk about wlw experiences without painting them as aggressive male intruders, and bigender mlm talk about mlm experiences without painting them as fetishizing straight women. bigender m+w means you cant treat us as if were exclusively men the moment we talk about anything you dont like regarding gender so you can paint us as purely actors of oppression who have never suffered misogyny despite also being women. bigender m+w means you have to rethink how you think gender works and what you believe about nonbinary people aligning themselves with a binary gender meaning theyre just “man lite or woman lite” when some of us are aligned with both binary genders. etc..

normalize using they/them to refer to people you don't know even if they don't have shaved sides 🥴

Please reblog with this addition!

ok this pride i do really need white gays to step up and out of their comfort zone and learn more about pinkwashing and gay imperialism. i need you to really try to understand why we say lgbt issues are ALWAYS about race and acknowledge the ways you use your identity as an opt-out of examining how you can reproduce racism islamophobia antisemitism colorism ableism etc etc. every year you say « don’t forget the ‘‘poc gays’’ that made this possible !! » now im asking you guys to actually do that. please ive had enough.

ok here is a google drive with articles i currently have on lgbt intersectionality [it is very barren right now but i’ll keep adding to it]

all queer history on here is just US-American or maybe sometimes some UK history as well and it makes me sad that there’s so little information about other countries’ queer history on here :(

@makingqueerhistory has some diversity, as of historical queer people, and they’re doing a great job, but there’s a lot of work ahead. 

!!! This is what I was looking for! thank you!

Of course! Glad we could help!

[ID: The Chris Fleming “was anybody going to tell me” meme. A person standing in front of a brick wall speaks, with the captions edited to read, “Okay, was anybody going to tell me that my country has queer history I would’ve adored to know before, or was I just supposed to learn it from a wholesome Tumblr post myself?”]

@queerasfact is a pretty cool blog and podcast dedicated to international queer history!

Thanks for tagging us! We’ve got a list here of all our episodes sorted by country. There’s definitely a lot we haven’t covered, but if you’re looking for a specific area, you can check it out.

if you see a gender neutral term you dont like youre actually allowed to just elect not to use it and move on, yall know that right?

like are yall aware that approximately 0 people are holding you at gunpoint and demanding you go by joyfriend or ren or mx or whatever? its actually free and easy to just go “oh, thats not for me” and then not use the term

“just call me a slur!1!!” Or just. don’t use it? Allow your day to day life to remain fully unchanged. Mind your business lmao

I’m still on this tbh like Remember when that teenager came up with the word “joyfriend” because the term “partner” felt too formal to them and y’all became so incensed at the idea of a teenager having fun with their identity that they had to put out a message begging people to stop harassing them? Like I stg y’all see will someone being queer in a way you think is cringe and lose ur fucking minds

Also if you’re in the tags being like “well I think these terms are stupid and I hate them and I would die if they were used for me but it’s okay if other people do!!1!” This post is about you lmao.

THIS. Let’s not document our history to justify our existence to some bigots who are ultimately an annoying blip in it, let’s document our history for US.

I-??????? I can't really get that my brain hurts

contrary to popular belief not everyone has an innate sense of internal gender or care to have one or seek a name for it, some people go their whole lives without questioning their occupation in one of two gender roles, but for some people, if pressed, they don't feel that internal sense of 'i am a woman' or 'i am a man', and in that case i feel the switch over to transgender vs cisgender relies on active identification of a gender other than the one they were assigned. if someone's like 'idk dude I just work here' then that's valid

Basically any time I decide to say “hey nonbinary people get treated like shit and people in my position specifically get left out in the cold a lot” I lose a number of followers. I’m pretty sure I’ve had people block me over literally just saying that. I hate that nonbinary issues often relegated to the status of “discourse” instead of, like, actual threats that we experience and the only people I can talk to about it are other nonbinary people.

I’ve lost count of the number of death threats I’ve gotten just for, like, existing, so I’d really like it if folks stopped acting like being nonbinary is ezmode

infantilization of nonbinary people will never be the fault of nonbinary people no matter how they dress or act. "childish" nonbinary people (children teens AND adults) are not the reason cis people dont take us seriously, and youre a fucking idiot if you think the fault lies in anything other than transphobes looking for any excuse to make fun of us.

if you spend your time making fun of people for looking "stereotypically nonbinary" in the way they dress or wear their hair and tell people to "just call me a slur XD" in response to harmless words like joyfriend or even just enby (which you can yknow. politely say you dont like being used for you individually) i think you are the worlds biggest fucking loser and when the exclusies swing back towards us to be the hot queer discourse topic again youll be fucking wondering why we bunker down alone and not pay you any mind

I know these are online somewhere but my memory is really terrible. Does anyone else know ?

they’re available here! although i’m gonna warn yall, the scans are old n ROUGH. i personally can’t really parse what most of the articles say, but maybe yall can ( n either way it’s nifty to look through the pictures :)

If you click on the archive link that contains the scans, there is an option for ‘full text’ that will take you to a transcription of the pages! If there’s an article you can’t make out, that might help. Also, although the quality is a little rough the archive also contains an audio option. (There is also an option labeled ‘Daisy’ specifically ‘for print disabled users’ that may help if you can’t make out a particular scan!

it’s like I DO want to be feminine in the way a man is feminine. if I’m performing feminity I don’t want it to be read as an inherent reflection of my gender and who I am. I don’t want someone to call me ma’am or be called a girl. like. it’s drag. only it can’t be drag for me, because it’s not actually subverting anything, is it? so I’m in this spot where I either cannot allow myself any femininity or I do and accept the consequences of perception. my wearing eyeliner isn’t a subversion, a quiet rebellion, it’s perceived as fulfilling an expectation. somehow I can never be masc enough to be percieved as I want to be, so any introduction of femininity feels like a defeat. and yet sometimes I want to wear the pretty things that are still in my closet! or play around with makeup. but it isn’t a young boy getting into his mother’s vanity and heels, it’s growing up into the fulfillment of the wants of the mother and the rest of society as a blank whole.