A Mess of Everything

I looked the book up. the main character's name is Tookie De La Crème

I love when people ask "how did you learn this skill?" I just started, there's no secret. that's it. a vast majority of the time the only thing holding you back is your trepidation to start.

Heard someone call the Skyraider the precursor to the Warthog, and that's one of the most correct descriptions I can think of for it.

One thing that explains my entire deal is that I used to go to a Korean Presbyterian church, combining the worst sort of Korean (presbyterians) with the worst sort of Christians (presbyterians). My youth group was populated by homophobic boys who regularly would call each other slurs and threaten sexual violence upon each other. I would semi-regularly be put into leglocks and headlocks and choked out until one day I somehow managed to flip one over and sit on him and trap him between my thighs until someone called a pastor over to split us apart, and then every Sunday for about I would say sixteen months he would provoke me in a deeply obvious attempt to get me to sit on him again, and when I explained all of this to our youth group leader she asked me to pray for her to get a husband quickly and I said okay. I went home and told my parents about all of this, feeling that something here was being mishandled, and they listened and nodded and went "Mmhm. Mmhm. Mh-- SHE ASKED YOU TO PRAY FOR A WHAT?" And they reported this to the head... pastor? Reverend? I don't know the term. The church's pope or whatever. And apparently our youth group leader had done this to everybody and a BUNCH of parents had been like "Umm why is my kid praying for Ms. _______ to get married" and he had no choice but to investigate and they concluded that this was a weird thing to ask a bunch of kids and teenagers to do and also struck several members of the congregation as vaguely whorish in its desperation and she ended up getting fired, and I spent about five years wondering if it was my fault. I brought this up with my mom (the guilt having cooled into wry humor) and she was like "ohh I mean there were other things" and I was like "Wait, really? Like what?" and she was like "Well it was mostly the prayer thing but she also had a history of being very racist against the Chinese congregants" and I was like "Oh what, holy shit-- wait THAT wasn't enough to fire her??" and my mom was like "It wasn't a very good church"

also, many women/people experience controlling behaviour and domestic violence from their partner for the first time during pregnancy. don’t risk thinking “he’s just stressed, it’ll get better when the baby comes” because it won’t. neither you and your child will ever be safe with that man. get out as early and safely as you can