People are way too forgiving of Roman. I mean, don't get me wrong, the boy is struggling, but they do seem really eager wallpaper over the fact that he did it to himself. Or worse, blame it entirely on someone else. He *chose* to sentence Thomas to the wedding instead of the callback. He wasn't manipulated into that (like so many people like to assert), he in fact intentionally chose to do the *opposite* of what Janus was trying to convince him to do, because in the moment his role as Thomas's Dreams and his role as the Ego came into conflict. Roman chose the wedding as a *punishment*, both for Thomas and for himself, because the idea of "selfishly" pursuing those dreams tarnished Thomas's concept of himself as a kind and selfless person. It was a blow to the Ego, and Roman hurt himself rather than accept it.
There is a reason why the theme of *mistakes* keeps coming up in relation to Roman, in PoF, in FWSA, and WIDS. Roman's made some big mistakes that have turned around and taken a bite out of Thomas's mental health, just like they all have. The difference is that, as the Ego, he *cannot easily learn from them*. He represents the part of the self that is the most afraid to accept that we aren't perfect, that is the most hesitant to internalize and accept our mistakes so that we can grow.
*That's* why he's falling apart. Not because he's somehow Janus's victim (or Patton's, or somehow *Logan's*?).
Wow, now that's a really hot take, be respectful and don't mean when reading this people! There's a reason the anonymous option is a thing