was anybody else told repeatedly by the people who raised them that all love is conditional
I have a clear memory of telling my family (in the context of them getting mad at me for being depressed and asking what they were doing wrong and why I seemed to be Trying to Upset Them and Trying to Self Sabotage) that all I wanted from them was unconditional love
and my grandfather literally laughed and said “there ain’t no such thing, and anybody who says different is either an idiot or thinks you are”
this post brought to you by a clip I just saw of a psychiatrist being asked where NPD comes from














