Green Classroom

Following the line of reasoning from the previous question, how do you handle tantrums or significant outbursts that a submissive might have? For instance, when a submissive behaves excessively out of line in the middle of an argument between you, how do you react?

Additionally, do you have any protocols for times when your submissive is particularly stressed? Do you temporarily step back from the dynamic or make it more flexible, or do you actually reenforce it for her somehow?

Also, do you have any suggestions on how to reeinforce a dinamic for a specially stressed out and specially bratty and disobedient sub?

First, if your sub is being excessively angry with you, you need to talk to them and figure out what the problem. Is this them acting out, being bratty, or wanting to get out of the relationship.

That being said, I don't have a catch-all for training subs. Each one is their own version, and you need to communicate with them.

Again, stay calm. If you get into a screaming match, it will take twice as long to calm it down for a conversation. When my sub is stressed, I do things I know that will help them relax. But again, that was different for each sub.

One thing I have always done is stay calm and remind them of the rules that you both agreed upon. If that doesn't work, end any type of session you are in.

As the Dom, I need to be firm but fair at all times.

Yes, I have had some pretty powerful arguments with different subs. And while arguments happen in any relationship, it is important to stay calm. It doesn't matter how mad my sub got. I stayed calm and listened.

Whatever happened in the moment of their anger should not be reflected back at them in anger. Listening is important.

I have had subs yell at me, scream, and one even threw off their collar on the floor.

I listened, and we talked it out. Afterward, we discussed repercussions for what happened. They apologized or they made amends, but I never took out my anger for them feeling something only how they expressed it. Each case differs. I never have one rule for all. I will say the one who threw their collar on the ground had to earn it back.

As for curssing, we all cuss. Unless that's your dynamic, I have never had a rule about curssing. I see no reason why someone can't or shouldn't curss to illustrate their emotions.