Post-SB Life

This shit is NOT for shits and giggles. Don’t be blinded by the luxury pics of BMWs, Chanel bags, Louboutins, and slim girls on vacation drinking champagne.

I’ve been a sugar baby for approximately a year now, I’ll be 24 in December. The shit I’ve learned AND endured the past year are lessons I’ll one day teach my daughter. I have no problem with a young girl entering the bowl, but do it for the right reasons. Once you enter this life, it will FOREVER be apart of you. Never steer away from your morals for some money, gifts, and/or vacations; the shit isn’t worth it in the end. TRUST ME.

If you don’t have the hustler mentality, this life ain’t for you sweetheart. These men will walk all over you; and the LAST thing I want to happen is for some young girl to be taken advantage of just because she wanted some nice shit.

If you can’t do your own research, this ain’t for you. No one is going to spoon feed you info. There is no sugar baby handbook. Research first, google is there for a reason. If you have questions afterwards, then ask. None of these girls on here owe you a damn thing. The same way we learned this info, secrets, and tricks you can learn them too. So be grateful if a girl answers your questions, but don’t get an attitude if she doesn’t.

Set goals for what you want to achieve in the bowl. It’s so easy to be blindsided by the money coming in that you forget why you started doing this in the beginning. If you got loans to pay off, stick to that. If you’re saving for something, stick to that. But don’t forget that money goes into this lifestyle. This lifestyle is an expense. You need money to maintain your hair, nails (mani/pedi), makeup, transportation, spending money, feminine essentials, clothing, etc. Shit adds up so don’t be ashamed to charge that man the money you KNOW you deserve. Never forget your worth. If you’re scared to ask for an allowance raise or a PPM raise, this isn’t for you. CLOSED MOUTHS DON’T GET FED. The same way your SD isn’t afraid to ask for sex/head/companionship, don’t be afraid to ask for those funds!!

Last but not least, learn when to walk away. If you’re becoming overwhelmed with the bowl, take a break. NOTHING is more important that your mental/physical health! You might lose out on some money for a while, but there’s always men in the bowl waiting. Still do those activities that you enjoy whether it’s reading, sleeping, watching Netflix, whatever it is do it. You can’t be the best SB if you can’t properly function on a day to day basis. Take care of yourself. Go to a spa, do some retail therapy, sleep in for a few hours, spend time with friends and family; just do something outside of the bowl. You’re going to need it for those days where you don’t want to talk to old men all day and night.

1. See the good in your past. There will always be things that we wish had never happened; there will always be bad memories and things that we regret. But they are part of who you are – so accept that they have happened and celebrate the person they’ve allowed you to become.

2. Invest time in the things that bring you happiness. It’s important to identify the things that you enjoy, and that make you come alive, and are all a part of “you”. Spending time on those things will help to raise your self-esteem, as you’re valuing yourself when you pursue happiness.

3. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. We all make mistakes - and when we think of them we cringe. But that doesn’t make you any worse than other people. Just try and learn what you can, and then move on with your life.

4. Stop criticising yourself. So often we’re really our own worst enemy. We look for our flaws, and we put ourselves down – instead of being understanding of our own limitations. It’s time to change that behaviour – so start loving yourself.

5. Listen to your instincts and intuitions. If you want to love yourself, you must listen to yourself. Pay attention to those instincts and your instant gut reaction – and trust that you are right when you hear that inner voice.

I am INCREDIBLY PERSUASIVE.

If you used to follow my OLD blog, you may remember the time my sugar daddy gifted me…. 

For me personally, there’s no magic trick or secret recipe; nor am I scamming/rinsing anyone.  

It’s all about COMMUNICATION: Asking & Negotiating

• If you never ask, the answer will always be, “No.”  • Hearing the words, “No” does not mean it’s the final answer. • Have a counteroffer, propose an alternative, find a compromise, etc.

The $45k was from an SD (I got lucky with him). But the reason he was always so generous was because I literally saved his life. If it wasn’t for me, he would be dead (without a doubt), which he knew. His money would’ve been irrelevant if he wasn’t around to use any of it.  I also completely played him and made him believe that we were exclusive & that I loved him. 

Yes, it’s difficult to believe, but I honestly have no need make this up. 

Monetary gifts don’t count as income… These were gifts, they don’t affect my tax bracket. Besides, I’m not the one paying taxes on the “gifts.”  The person who gives the gift has to file a gift tax return, not the receiver. 

https://www.irs.com/articles/7-things-you-should-know-about-gift-tax

I am INCREDIBLY PERSUASIVE.

If you used to follow my OLD blog, you may remember the time my sugar daddy gifted me…. 

For me personally, there’s no magic trick or secret recipe; nor am I scamming/rinsing anyone.  

It’s all about COMMUNICATION: Asking & Negotiating

• If you never ask, the answer will always be, “No.”  • Hearing the words, “No” does not mean it’s the final answer. • Have a counteroffer, propose an alternative, find a compromise, etc.

I am INCREDIBLY PERSUASIVE.

If you used to follow my OLD blog, you may remember the time my sugar daddy gifted me…. 

For me personally, there’s no magic trick or secret recipe; nor am I scamming/rinsing anyone.  

It’s all about COMMUNICATION: Asking & Negotiating

• If you never ask, the answer will always be, “No.”  • Hearing the words, “No” does not mean it’s the final answer. • Have a counteroffer, propose an alternative, find a compromise, etc.

You may be a 10 and he’s a 2.  You’re in your prime, as he has aged less than gracefully.  You feel like a Victoria Secret’s Angel & the world is your runway, while he’s embarrassing to be seen in public with.  You think you’re God’s gift to this earth?  

You may feel you’re entitled to his money, gifts, wealth, etc., just don’t let him know it.

Even as your sugar daddy/sponsor/benefactor/client, he’s still human.  As we know, these men don’t want “to feel like an ATM.”  Regardless of how you may feel, try to lose the entitlement.  A man can be 100x more generous when he feels appreciated (Trust Me!).  

Thank him, praise him, show a little gratitude.

Give him a handwritten card.

Leave a ‘thank you’ post-it on the bathroom mirror for him to find in the morning.

Kiss a note card with a note written on it, and place it in his coat pocket or luggage to find (DO NOT do this if he’s married, you don’t want the Mrs. to find it)

Buy him a gift/book/wine/liquor that you think he’d enjoy.

Send him an e-card letting him know you’re thinking of him.

Call the restaurant ahead of time and ask for “Thank You” to be written on his dessert plate - when it comes out, let him know how much you appreciate his generosity and all that he does for you. You’ll get so many brownie points for this one if you do it right ;)

Little things. They don’t have to be extravagant or costly; just let the guy know that he’s appreciated (even if you don’t, at least let him believe that you appreciate his generosity). 

My intention was never to be rude or tell anyone to bring themselves down. I never told anyone to not be confident. I never said anyone was wrong for feeling like they’re hot shit. I specifically said, “just don’t let him know [you feel entitled to his money, gifts, & wealth].” 

The intention of the post was to say, make your sugar daddy FEEL appreciated, regardless of how you feel about him. 

You don’t need a noble cause to justify your hustle. If you’re hustling for a fancy dinner, enjoy it girl. If you’re hustling for a new car, drive safe babe. If you’re hustling to buy groceries, all the power to you sis. If you’re hustling for a pair of shoes, I’m sure they’ll look great on you.

I am INCREDIBLY PERSUASIVE.

If you used to follow my OLD blog, you may remember the time my sugar daddy gifted me…. 

For me personally, there’s no magic trick or secret recipe; nor am I scamming/rinsing anyone.  

It’s all about COMMUNICATION: Asking & Negotiating

• If you never ask, the answer will always be, “No.”  • Hearing the words, “No” does not mean it’s the final answer. • Have a counteroffer, propose an alternative, find a compromise, etc.

And that unless you use the sugar world to build connections and your own professional foundation, it has a finite and capricious lifeline for you. There will come a point for 99% of you where you will be ejected back into the “real world”. The question is - will you be satisfied with the life you can afford for yourself? Or will you grow bitter thinking you deserve better for the rest of your life because you had better for a few years?