Daddy's Toy

if you're above a D-cup⁵ you've probably got more boob than brain⁶

And most importantly, you should plan for that eventuality before it happens! Part of safely being risk aware is understanding how you bounce back from that position when things go wrong. For some people and some pairs or groups, that might look like "I need support and understanding from an external party." For others it might look like, "I need to work through my feelings verbally with you, specifically." You should have a conversation around what aftercare and support looks like when things go well (a widely accepted fact in most kink I hear about), but also when things go badly! "What does my scene partner need if things Go Wrong?" and "How do we prepare for things to Go Wrong?" are questions you should have already answered before you begin. Even if the answer is "my partner doesn't know specifically what they need, but they have agreed to a framework of communication in the worst case scenario and I will support them in the ways they ask for in the moment."

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You’re not my father first. You’re my equal partner first.

You’re my equal first, and if you can’t meet me in that space, as an equal, then nothing else can happen in good faith.

It’s not BDSM if you think me below you before we even negotiate or agree to terms. It’s not BDSM if you assume the power dynamic before anything else. That’s called delusion.

And if you’re delusional enough to think I owe you/you’re entitled to power over me before we even meet as equals… I’m not interested.

I want an incredibly deep and meaningful connection. And yes, eventually, I want to find an M/s relationship.

But I want it based on friendship, and care, and us negotiating from a place of equality first.

I want to agree to _give_ my submission to you. I need to be convinced that it’s in our combined best interest. That you’ll look after me as well as you look after yourself. That our ethics align. I need to trust that you won’t ask me to do things that would damage me.

If you assume you have power over me before I decide to give it?

You’ll lose me entirely. You don’t get to take that from me.

My power is mine. To give or keep as I see fit and needed.

It’s my duty to guard myself, my peace, my happiness.

Caning

Paddling

Flogging

Bruises

Welts

Crying

Black eye(s)

Bloody lip(s)

Corrective beatings

Painful restraints

Rope burns

Spanking

Slapping

Shock collars

Wax

Do I believe in consent? Hell yes.

Should you always have consent? Yes. Always yes.

Do I want rapethreats still? Yes I do

Do I consent to rapethreats? Yesss for the threats

Can you always send me some? Always yes

ALWAYS HAVE CONSENT THOUGH.

Some people don't know the difference between fantasies and real life so this is just a reminder for those people.

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