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Red flags and warning signs of an abuser include but are not limited to:

Extreme jealousy

Possessiveness

Unpredictability

A bad temper

Cruelty to animals

Verbal abuse

Extremely controlling behavior

Antiquated beliefs about roles of women and men in relationships

Forced sex or disregard of their partner’s unwillingness to have sex

Sabotage of birth control methods or refusal to honor agreed upon methods

Blaming the victim for anything bad that happens

Sabotage or obstruction of the victim’s ability to work or attend school

Controls all the finances

Abuse of other family members, children or pets

Accusations of the victim flirting with others or having an affair

Control of what the victim wears and how they act

Demeaning the victim either privately or publicly

Embarrassment or humiliation of the victim in front of others

Harassment of the victim at work

What Traits Do Abusers Have in Common?

There is no one typical, detectable personality of an abuser. However, they do often display common characteristics.

An abuser often denies the existence or minimizes the seriousness of the violence and its effect on the victim and other family members.

An abuser objectifies the victim and often sees them as their property or sexual objects.

An abuser has low self-esteem and feels powerless and ineffective in the world. He or she may appear successful, but internally, they feel inadequate.

An abuser externalizes the causes of their behavior. They blame their violence on circumstances such as stress, their partner’s behavior, a “bad day,” on alcohol, drugs, or other factors.

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You see a post where bisexual people are explaining what bisexuality is with multiple links to bisexual orgs and you have the fucking nerve to comment “aCtUaLLy this is just pansexuality, you should identify as pan cause its more correct :) :)”

Newsflash: what is described by the post IS NOT PANSEXUALITY. ITS BISEXUALITY.

STOP TRYING TO DEFINE BISEXUALITY FOR US.

STOP SPEAKING OVER US.

This is EXACTLY what we mean when we say that pansexuality erases bisexuality.

This is EXACTLY what we mean when we say that some pansexual like to speak over bisexuals.

This is EXACTLY why some bisexuals find pansexuality uncomfortable.

Two Aztec, properly known as Mexica, princesses, sit on a palace terrace, overlooking the ancient Mexica capital of Tenochtitlan. They are surrounded by native Mexican flowers, and wear beautifully embroidered huipiles. The women are in love, and tenderly kiss. One woman has in her hair two bunches of quetzal plumes, which is part of the symbolic regalia of Xochiquetzal, the Plumed Blossom, the goddess of love.