PrincessImp

You’re not my father first. You’re my equal partner first.

You’re my equal first, and if you can’t meet me in that space, as an equal, then nothing else can happen in good faith.

It’s not BDSM if you think me below you before we even negotiate or agree to terms. It’s not BDSM if you assume the power dynamic before anything else. That’s called delusion.

And if you’re delusional enough to think I owe you/you’re entitled to power over me before we even meet as equals… I’m not interested.

I want an incredibly deep and meaningful connection. And yes, eventually, I want to find an M/s relationship.

But I want it based on friendship, and care, and us negotiating from a place of equality first.

I want to agree to _give_ my submission to you. I need to be convinced that it’s in our combined best interest. That you’ll look after me as well as you look after yourself. That our ethics align. I need to trust that you won’t ask me to do things that would damage me.

If you assume you have power over me before I decide to give it?

You’ll lose me entirely. You don’t get to take that from me.

My power is mine. To give or keep as I see fit and needed.

It’s my duty to guard myself, my peace, my happiness.