plural wallpapers! ft. kenochoric's plural flag (as archived by @extranth)

Share our joy.

Plurality doesn’t have to mean pain forever,

you can love yourself and your plurality,

others will love you as you are, too.

Share your joy with the world,

plurality is not defined by headcount.

plurality is not defined by an inner world.

plurality is not defined by distinct headmates.

plurality is not defined by communication.

plurality is not defined by getting along internally.

plurality is not defined by an origin.

The average number of headmates for systems, according to some cursory glances at search engine results, range from about 8-13 people. It's time to appreciate these wonderful plurals who have systems on the smaller side!

Shoutout to:

Empty systems

Systems of only 2 people

Those who went through a major headcount change, such as a collapse

Systems where they're technically larger but only a handful front

Multiples who are mostly made up of dormant members

Anyone else who considers their system small!

You're absolutely stunning, dears! Please appreciate yourself today!

Like. Yeah. We also thought we needed to keep tabs on everyone to increase communication. In the end it became too unwieldy. Especially since DID evolves with what you experience all the time.

Microlabels are cool and I fully support anyone who uses them, but figuring out what to call every single structure in your system isn't for us anymore.

Another thing we notice is people who try their best to know who is fronting at all given times. A lot of that comes naturally to us nowadays, but it's also... OK not to know. Especially if you're not focusing on anything system related at the time.

I guess a lot of this boils down to, it's okay not to care. It's okay to go with the flow of things and figure out at your own pace. Identity is fluid, especially if you have a dissociative disorder. You don't HAVE to have everything figured out 100% of the time.

It's okay to take it slow. It's okay to not know. It's okay to just exist for a bit. It's okay to live and experience things beyond being a system.

To all the people who are just starting to comprehend this. You do not need to know and label exactly what is happening in your head all the time. Fuck, we sure don't. And we're happier for it.

Contrary to popular belief, having a pregnancy in the headspace or inner world is not an indication of faking plurality! Systems of all sorts from many different backgrounds have witnessed this phenomenon. So here’s to all the systems who have experienced or witnessed a headspace/inner world pregnancy!

Shoutout to systems or headmates with tokophobia who have still gone through or witnessed a headspace pregnancy!

Shoutout to systems who gain or introduce new headmates or alters through headspace pregnancy!

Shoutout to systems who have been traumatized by inner world events relating to pregnancy!

Shoutout to systems whose headspace pregnancies relate to outside events the system has gone through!

Shoutout to headmates who have struggled to carry their pregnancy to term, or have had inside stillbirths or miscarriages!

Shoutout to headmates who work to help and support their pregnant headmates!

Shoutout to systems whose headspace pregnancies aren’t related to trauma or have no apparent or obvious cause!

Shoutout to headmates who were completely unaware that their system had a headspace pregnancy until after the fact!

Shoutout to systems who are trying to learn more about their own plurality by understanding their headspace pregnancies!

Pregnancies can be joyous, scary, exciting, overwhelming, and all of these all at once! It’s okay to be confused or alarmed at the realization that you or one of your headmates is pregnant in your headspace. It’s also okay to be excited or happy about the potential for new life in your system!

Remember that headspace pregnancies are absolutely NOT a sign of faking plurality in any way. You and your headmates are lovely and valid just the way you are! Please do your best to treat yourself and your headmates with gentleness and compassion, and be sure to show some extra care to the pregnant headmates in your system! There is no need to fear, hide, or be ashamed of the way your system functions. Your system will always be a welcome and cherished part of the plural community! Thanks so much for reading, and take care!

Systems of all religious and spiritual faiths and backgrounds belong in the plural community. Muslim systems have always been and will always be cherished and vital members of these spaces, and we are honored to be able to share them with you all! This post goes out to all the Muslim systems out there!

🌙 Shoutout to Muslim systems whose plurality is influenced by or intrinsically connected to their religion!

⭐️ Shoutout to systems who have converted to Islam or are in the conversion process!

🌙 Shoutout to systems for whom Islam is a part of their cultural or familial heritage!

⭐️ Shoutout to systems who regularly study the Quran, attend mosque, wear a burqa or hijab, pray regularly, or loudly and unapologetically practice their faith!

🌙 Shoutout to systems who are passionate about Islam, who love talking about it with others and sharing their faith with those who are interested!

⭐️ Shoutout to Sunni, Shia, Whabbi, Salafi, Berelvi, Sufi and Deobandi systems, and to Muslim systems who don’t belong to a particular denomination!

🌙 Shoutout to Muslim systems whose plurality formed or was influenced by islamophobia, persecution, or religious/inter-generational trauma!

⭐️ Shoutout to individual headmates in non-Muslim systems who are learning about Islam or hoping to convert in the future!

🌙 Shoutout to systems who are culturally Muslim, or who identify as Muslim while being secular, atheist, or belonging to another faith!

⭐️ Shoutout to Muslim systems who are religious leaders, who lead fellow Muslims in prayer and service, or who help connect and revitalize their local Muslim community!

All systems have a special, valued, and important place in plural spaces, and this absolutely includes Muslim systems! We hope all Muslim systems can find peace, joy, comfort, and security in their faith, in Allah, and in their communities. Know that there will always be a place for you here, regardless of how devoutly you practice Islam!

Please do your best to treat yourself and your headmates with compassion, respect, and loving kindness. We hope your faith will bring you happiness and utmost fulfillment in your future! Thank you so much for reading, and have an amazing day!

Living with a personality disorder can often be scary, challenging, and overwhelming, and those with personality disorders may find it difficult to receive the support they need to thrive. However, those living with personality disorders are beautiful, special, and so very deserving of respect, and kindness! This post is for all the systems living with dependent personality disorder (DPD)!

🌱 Shoutout to those whose plurality formed alongside or because of their DPD!

🐝 Shoutout to systems with DPD who are unable to take care of themselves, or who are not able to function when alone!

🌸 Shoutout to systems with DPD who have a huge fear of abandonment and worry they could lose their support system at any time!

☁️ Shoutout to those with DPD who created their system so that they could never be truly alone!

🍄 Shoutout to systems with DPD who are prone to fawning, are people-pleasers, or struggle to say no to others!

☘️ Shoutout to systems with DPD who find it incredibly difficult not to care about what other people think of them, or to form their own opinions about the world!

🦋 Shoutout to systems with DPD whose symptoms are exacerbated by chronic illness, mental illness, or other medical conditions!

☀️ Shoutout to systems with DPD who have been shamed for being “too clingy,” “overbearing,” or otherwise “too much for others to handle!”

🌺 Shoutout to systems with DPD who live with constant feelings of helplessness, powerlessness, or the inability to trust their own judgement or capabilities!

🍃 Shoutout to individual headmates who are DPD symptom holders, or to headmates whose DPD symptoms are worse than the rest of their system’s!

🐞 Shoutout to systems with DPD who need reassurance and guidance in order to complete seemingly “simple” or “basic” tasks in their daily lives!

🌻 Shoutout to systems whose DPD is rooted in trauma or genetic predisposition, and to those whose DPD formed suddenly with no easily discernible cause!

Having a personality disorder like DPD does NOT make you weak, useless, or a burden to others around you. On the contrary, you are a brilliant, shining star in this community and are deeply loved and cared about by the people in your life! Please try not to treat yourself too harshly for having symptoms of a disorder that is outside of your control. Having DPD is not a moral failing on your part, and your system is sweet, kind, and beautiful just the way it is!

We hope you can have a bit of gentle self-compassion for yourself and your headmates today. Whether you are striving towards healing and recovery, are focusing on accepting yourself and your system, or are simply trying to make it through each day, we are rooting for you and wishing you the very best! Thank you so very much for taking the time to read this, and have a lovely day!

Many people take "disordered" to be synonymous with OSDDID... except, there's many more forms of disordered plurality than that!

Shoutout to:

Systems who gained their plurality from the "well known" things such as autism, ADHD, BPD, or OCD

Systems that developed disordered plurality from less talked about disorders/neurodivergencies such as intellectual disabilities, depression, bipolar, personality disorders besides BPD, etc.

People who became plural by being traumatized later in life than the typical age cut-off for OSDDID

Those who identify with (or were diagnosed with!) terms like UDD, DDNOS, P-DID, or MPD

Adaptive and neurogenic plurality in general

And anyone else who is a disordered system!

You don't have to have OSDDID to be disordered, and you certainly don't owe anyone an explanation about your specific experiences unless you want to tell them. You're just as valid as any other plural is! No one can take that away from you.

Stay unique, everyone!

Not every system or headmate experiences dysphoria in the same way or for the same reasons. There are many aspects of a person’s life or physical being that may cause them unease, dissatisfaction, or distress! So this post is for all the systems and headmates out there who have atypical or uncommon experiences with dysphoria!

Shoutout to systems and headmates who are afab with transfem gender dysphoria, and those who are amab with transmasc gender dysphoria!

Shoutout to systems who collectively identify as nonhuman and experience species dysphoria as a result!

Shoutout to child headmates in adult bodied systems who feel dysphoric due to being unable to act their age, play with other children, embrace or lean into their childishness, or otherwise just be a kid!

Shoutout adult headmates in minor bodied systems who feel dysphoric due to being perceived as a child or unable to do many of the adult things they wish they could!

Shoutout to headmates who struggle with feeling phantom limbs, tails, wings, horns, or other nonhuman features!

Shoutout to headmates with height dysphoria, weight dysphoria, skin tone dysphoria, eye color dysphoria, or dysphoria regarding other unchangeable physical characteristics!

Shoutout to systems who use wigs, contacts, makeup, or other items to alleviate their dysphoria or the dysphoria of their headmates!

Shoutout to systems or headmates who are in treatment for their dysphoria with a therapist or mental health professional!

Shoutout to systems and headmates who have complex or complicated relationships with their bodies due to their dysphoria!

Shoutout to systems who are working through their dysphoria by focusing on body positivity or body neutrality movements!

Shoutout to systems who have dysphoria due to their plurality or neurodivergence, who wish they could be a singlet or neurotypical!

There are a vast number of ways that dysphoria can manifest - not all systems and headmates who experience dysphoria are amab transfem people or afab transmasc people! Those who experience odd, unusual, or atypical forms of dysphoria still deserve to have their voices heard and acknowledged in system spaces.

If you or someone in your system experiences an unorthodox form of dysphoria, we want to let you know that we see you, we care about you, and we want to uplift and support you however we can. Rest assured you will always be welcome in the plural community just as you are, no matter what your dysphoria looks like or how it affects you! Please do your best to treat yourself and your system with kindness, gentleness, and respect. Thanks so much for reading, and take care!