Moss, Mortality, and Memery

al oído, despacio, lentamente.

Me dijo: ¡vive, vive, vive!

Era la muerte.

i am people. i am good

this post is for you specifically 

i know we all hate reading comprehension on tumblr dot hell, but this post is not about other people. it’s not about the people who have hurt you, or saved you, or the ones you’ve met or those who you’ve invented in your head

this post is about you

if you cannot find evidence of the goodness around you, if you are jaded and your existence is miserable and you truly believe no one has ever showed you kindness, then this post is for and about you

you can’t control the actions of other people. you can’t make people show you kindness in the ways you want to receive it. if you look for proof of your version of kindness in the people who surround you, and can’t find it, you can decide it doesn’t exist

or you can be your own proof of concept

you are not special

there are at least hundreds of thousands of people who are just like you

so if you can choose to show others kindness - if you can bite back your temper and hold the door open for others and overtip and compliment strangers - then that is proof that hundreds of thousands of people, who are just like you, are capable of doing the same and likely are doing the same

i’ve said it before and i’ll say it again

but you deserve to give informed consent to that process.

the lies around pregnancy - that it's inherently safe, that it doesn't do you permanent damage, that it's only extremely rare for people to die of pregnancy complications, etc like

all of these are lies constructed so that more people will get pregnant w/o knowing all that

there needs to be more talk about the impact of miscarriages and how common they are, how different abortion processes are and how accessible they are

but also like. talking about how pregnancy fucks your body up should not be taboo

this is a process that permanently changes most people's bodies, and that's even if the pregnancy doesn't do them like. severe illness or injury

and i just think everybody should have a right to KNOW that

That boy wearing jeans that are too tight

Your neighbors and their “friend” that lives with them

Having a beard and wearing a skirt

Wearing any kind of choker

If you are trans you are a sex pervert

If you're gay you're a sex pervert.

If you're the world's most chaste and godly nun praying in a convent, who has a lesbian thought once while delirious from a fever, you are a sex pervert.

If you're a family with a white picket fence house, a breadwinner, a stay-at-home parent, two cars, a dog, and whose politics are right wing... if you happen to be a same-sex couple, you're sex perverts and probably pedophiles.

If you're a closeted, self-hating, self-hurting, self-repressing queer going through every torturous form of conversion therapy, who condemns the other queers, who screams at the people who seek abortion help outside Planned Parenthood... you are a filthy, irredeemable sex pervert, a danger to children, and the most sympathy you deserve is transient pity if you admit to struggling.

There is nothing you can do, no behaviour you can engage in, no thought you can have, no clothes you can wear, no existence you can lead that is not an unacceptable sex perversion in the minds of these people. Your existence is kink, and you cannot appease them into thinking otherwise.

The bigoted conservative mind cannot conceive of queerness except as perversion, except as hedonistic degenerate thrill-seeking. They don't know another reason to do any thing, except as an exercise of power over someone else. Their entire world revolves around this idea. Everything is power, everything is control.

Therefore you can never appease them. Your mere existence is to them a totalizing threat, to their worldview, to their sense of normalcy, to their positions of social power, to their patriarchy, to their holiness. The only thing you can do that will ever satisfy them is die.

Which leaves us with this:

Either we have solidarity with our queer siblings - yes including the ones you don't understand, yes including the ones who have that weird sex that you think is fucked up, yes including the cringe annoying ones who "make the rest of us look bad," yes including the fucked up problematic ones who need to change and make amends, but who deserve their human rights whether or not they ever do that.

This is that. Just A Simple Artificer (@CraftyCatDad) is the latest Twitter handle of Andrew Blake aka thanfiction, a grifter so prolific that he has an entire Fanlore page about him.

His past behaviors include but are not limited to starting two different cults, sexually and emotionally abusing multiple people (some of which he himself has admitted), committing documented fraud and identify theft, and in general lying about literally anything you can imagine someone lying about: having a terminal heart condition, being sold into sex slavery as a child, fighting on "both sides of the Troubles," having an evil twin sister who was really the grifter, and, notably, everything about the nature and extent of his past crimes and abusive behavior.

I am extremely abridging the entire saga: this is a history that spans over twenty fucking years. There is not a single fandom he has entered that he hasn't tried to grift.

Why am I bringing this up on a post that's not about fandom?

Because what he's saying is very rich coming from a guy who used his position as a costumer to deliberately trigger fat and trans people's dysphoria as a form of negging. It's rich coming from a guy who "affectionately" triggered his ex-girlfriend's body image issues with a "game" involving him riding her naked body and staying on by holding onto her loose skin. And it's rich coming from a guy who repeatedly shows disdain for both trans and queer people, even though he himself is an AFAB man (he identifies as a straight cisgender man and does not want to be called a trans man or queer unless it's useful for him to get sympathy).