Literally all things you can do for adults as well! Especially those of us who have childhood trauma.
Iโm crying over how much this would have changed the course of my life. If youโre a parent or child adjacent, please practice this. Please.
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13 helpful phrases you can say to calm an anxious child
โi am here; you are safeโ anxiety has a way of making things look worse and feel scarier than when we are not feeling worried. these words can offer comfort and safety when your child feeling out of control, especially if they are at the height of their worry.
โtell me about itโ give your child room to talk about their fears without interrupting. some children need to have time to process through their thoughts.
โhow big is your worry?โ help your child verbalize the size of their worry and give you an accurate picture of how it feels to them.
โwhat do you want to tell your worry?โ give your child room to talk about their fears without interrupting. some children need to have time to process through their thoughts.
โcan you draw it?โ many kids cannot express their emotions with words. encourage them to draw, paint or create their worries on paper.
โletโs change the ending.โ anxious children often feel stuck in the same pattern without a way out. help them see different options by telling their story, but leaving off the ending.
โwhat other things do you know about (fill in the blank)?โ some children feel empowered when they have more information about their fear (especially things like tornadoes, bees, elevators, etc).
โwhich calming strategy do you want to use?โ work proactively to create a long list of calming strategies your child enjoys. practice them during the day, at random times when you child feels calm.
โiโm going to take a deep breath.โ sometimes our children are so worried they resist our encouragement to pick a calming strategy. in this case, use yourself as the calming skill! verbalize what you are doing and how it makes you feel.
โitโs scary andโฆโ acknowledge your childโs fear without making it even more frightening by using the wordย โAND.โ after the wordย โandโ you can add phrases like,ย โyou are safeโ orย โyouโve conquered this fear beforeโ orย โyou have a plan.โ
โi canโt wait to hear aboutโฆโ itโs hard to see our kids suffer with worry. many parents rush in to rescue their child from an anxiety-producing situation.
โwhat do you need from me?โ instead of assuming that you know what your child needs, give them an opportunity to tell you what would help.
โthis feeling will pass.โ this may be a phrase you can both use when your child is at the height of panic. all feelings pass eventually. it often feels like they will never end, you wonโt make it through, or itโs too hard. and thatโs okay. donโt let your brain get stuck in that moment; focus on the relief that is on the horizon.
source: this infographic was created based on a wonderful article written by nicole schwawrz found at limeadventures.com. nicoleโs blog can be found at imperfectfamilies.com.
get tips and tools to alleviate childhood anxiety: www.gozen.com
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