* Identify your common self-sabotage patterns and notice what situations, emotions, or thoughts tend to trigger them. Prepare a battle plan ahead of time when you are in the right frame of mind.

* One off-track meal or missed workout does not erase your progress. 

* Set realistic goals that fit your current lifestyle rather than aiming for an all-or-nothing approach that requires an insane level of discipline and long-term self denial that you have literally never possessed.

* Keep healthy foods easy, quick and convenient while making less healthy choices less accessible.

* Create a backup plan for busy or stressful days, such as healthier take-out choices, pre-packaged meals kept in the freezer, and 10 minute equipment-free bedroom workout videos saved in your playlist.

* Never think that you’re above celebrating your small wins, including drinking more water, adding vegetables to meals, or completing a quick workout. Even if it's the same old same old. You should keep celebrating these new habits because a year or two ago you were striving to be this version of yourself.

* Avoid using food as a reward or punishment.

* Track habits instead of just outcomes so you can recognize progress even when results are slow.

* Remember your deeper reasons for wanting to be healthier and revisit them regularly.

* Surround yourself with supportive people who encourage your goals and healthy habits, even through the content you consume.

* Acknowledge your habits that lead to a setback and focus on your next positive choice rather than dwelling on mistakes. Get up, move forward.

Sometimes it comes from old patterns where love to you meant earning, proving, or holding everything together. So you start adjusting yourself your standards, your needs, your routines,trying to make the relationship work. But you don’t change someone into alignment, you choose someone who already is because that “ecosystem” isn’t a small detail. It’s your everyday life. It’s what you wake up to, how you feel in your own body around them