For me, big part of the femme identity is feeling this huge gap between you and straight women who act and dress in a ‘feminine’ way. I can’t go to a place filled with straight women without feeling like a complete stranger. I can never feel like I am at home when surrounded by them. We could be bonding about the same stuff but the way I interact with things and present myself to the world feels like (and it is) a completely different thing. You cannot just group straight women and femmes together just because of what seems like a behaviour in common. It isn’t and it will never be. There is always this invisible wall in between us. We are not comparable in any way.

'oh damn! i wonder why i suddenly have 50+ activity!"