“Culture’s greatest magic trick is convincing us that reading a body as gendered requires something inside which that body is or has, and which expresses itself through gendered acts. The reading of gender onto bodies is, in itself, a gendered act. One might say it is the gendering act. The imaginary bodies created by such readings are not the origins of gender but their result”

For me, big part of the femme identity is feeling this huge gap between you and straight women who act and dress in a ‘feminine’ way. I can’t go to a place filled with straight women without feeling like a complete stranger. I can never feel like I am at home when surrounded by them. We could be bonding about the same stuff but the way I interact with things and present myself to the world feels like (and it is) a completely different thing. You cannot just group straight women and femmes together just because of what seems like a behaviour in common. It isn’t and it will never be. There is always this invisible wall in between us. We are not comparable in any way.