Sorry but Iโm exclusively attracted to afab people. I wasnโt sent to conversion therapy twice as a teenager only to have people on the internet guilt me into trying to like people assigned male just like the Mormon counselors wanted. I will always advocate for trans rights but this kind of rhetoric will only hurt you. You cannot guilt or coerce people into sleeping with you or rather, you can, but you shouldโt.
I've been wanting to unpack this particular terf argument for a while but I'm not even sure what I wrote that you could be responding to here. yes it's bioessentialist to see trans women as our assigned sex before what we actually are, but that fact alone does not obligate you to sleep with anyone
it would be fatphobic to announce that you don't want to sleep with fat women, and someone simply calling that out alone would not constitute pressuring you to sleep with anyone you didn't want to
it's not carte blanche to announce all the minorities you don't want to sleep with and aren't attracted to
also I promise you there are quite a lot of trans men who do not want to be told how attracted to their "afabness" you are. your obsession with people's government sex assignments is gross. spare us your essentialism and just don't fuck people you don't want to fuck it's that simple
the fact that some trans men call themselves lesbians is not a blank check for you to reduce them all to their agabs. it's disgusting. stop
This is fucking disgusting. People should not feel ashamed because of their sexualitym you are not entitled to sex. Consent can be revoked at any time for any reason. Shame on you.
Its not "reducing people to their agabs" we have sex with genitals not identity
textbook example of how you can be the most articulate bitch on the planet about how no one has to fuck a tranny, but if you come for their ability to announce unprompted to minority groups how unfuckable they think we are they crack out the language of sexual assault
"we have sex with genitals not identity" is actually crazy. personally when i have sex im engaging with my partner as a person and not as a disembodied penis or vagina or what have you. but given how y'all treat trans women that's probably a concept you wouldn't understand.
and you already know despite how much these people harp on about it just being genital preference, they're not fucking with trans women post-op or otherwise. it's transmisogyny plain and simple, loosely disguised with terf talking points and cloaked in progressive-sounding language to make us out as the terrible awful people trying to take away their bodily autonomy. we literally don't care who y'all fuck but at least have the guts to admit to yourself your real reasoning.
For the record, this bizarre TERF fixation with the idea that trans women want to have sex with them, specifically, regardless of consent should feel very familiar to anyone who's lived in a time/place that treated gay people as intolerable.
Being a teenager growing up in mostly-conservative areas of the U.S. prior to 2015, it was practically a given that coming out as gay would instantly make everyone of the same gender feel less comfortable in your presence -- even the supposedly "tolerant" ones! -- because all of them suddenly felt as though you wanted to have sex with them, specifically, regardless of consent. Decades of media propaganda portraying gay people as deceptive, sexually aggressive, and (in particular) predatory towards children had made the mere existence of gay people in a community feel like a sexual threat to every straight person.
(Overt) Homophobia may now be unfashionable for most of the U.S., but the exact same propaganda continues to be used by the transmisogyny crowd. We're painted as deceptive, dangerous, sex-crazed -- as predators looking for vulnerable women and children to abuse and convert to our "perverse lifestyle".
TERFs and other transmisogynists insisting that trans lesbians seeking acceptance is equivalent to corrective rape and conversion therapy is a tale as old as time. They've fully bought into the belief that transfeminine people are all dishonest sexual predators, and they reconcile this belief with the reality of our desperation for basic tolerance by spinning narratives in which everything we do or say is just running cover for violence. Simply stating that we are women who feel attraction to other women is taken as proof that we want to have sex with them, specifically, regardless of consent. It is the exact same right-wing propaganda that many of them fervently oppose when it's aimed at them and their fellow cis gays, but they have no problem believing it's true when it allows them to attack those they already see as lesser.
