YES. MOTHER. FUCKING. THIS.
I have gotten so sick and tired of people diminishing Belleâs personal power and the importance of her story by saying she only stayed with the Beast because of âStockholm syndrome.â
This movie starts with Gaston and the Beast having basically the same entitled attitude towards the world: they feel theyâre OWED whatever they want because theyâre somehow superior. Belle is the catalyst and the lynchpin, and the difference in the characters of the two men becomes blatantly obvious in how they react to not getting what they want from Belle.
Gaston sulks and pouts and tries to force her to marry him, to the point that he convinces the entire village to help him plan a shotgun wedding with an unwilling bride, institutionalize her father, and even storm a castle to murder an unknown âmonster,â still with the idea that with no Beast, Belle will be âhis.â The most telling thing is that despite how much Gaston claims to want Belle, the moment she publicly rejects him (âHeâs no monster, Gaston! YOU are!â), he immediately dismisses her as crazy and locks her in a cellar while he goes off to kill the person she actually cares about.
Beast sulks and poutsâŚand then makes significant changes to his behavior and his manners, both to show Belle that he cares for her and that he CAN be a better man. He changes both FOR Belle and BECAUSE of her. He pays attention to what she says, what she doesnât like, and what makes her happy. And sheâs not afraid to tell him, in no uncertain terms, exactly what heâs doing wrong.
âIf youâd hold still, it wouldnât hurt as much!â
âWell, if you hadnât run away, this wouldnât have happened!â
âIf you hadnât FRIGHTENED ME, I wouldnât have run away!â
ââŚ..Well, YOU shouldnât have been in the west wing!â
âWell, you should learn to control your temper!â
This is not the behavior of a woman too afraid of the Beast to leave and too cowed by abuse to stand up for herself. The Beast literally shouts in her face, and she barely flinches. This is a woman in full control of her life and completely able to make her own choices. If the Beast hadnât changed, if heâd acted like Gaston instead of demonstrating radical self-improvement, if she thought for one second that her life was truly in danger, she would have left and never come back.
Sheâs spent the better part of her adult life standing up to and actively shutting down an overbearing and physically intimidating man who shows immediately and repeatedly that he has no respect for her wishes or her personal space. She is not going to back down just because someone growls and blusters at her, no matter how big his teeth are.
Belle is a force to be reckoned with.
And the message here is not, âIf you love someone enough, you can fix them.â
The message here is, âIf they actually love you, they wonât be abusive.â