(Manons version)

Lucian made fun of her MULTIPLE times, stood by and watched Feyre slowly die, and was going to drag her home, helped her abuser get her back to an unsafe house after he (Tamlin) beat her once (he went on to do it again but that's another argument) .It was only really when he found out Elain was his mate did he actually question Tamlin not when Feyre his ''Friend''' was about to die from depression and Ptsd

Jurian another member of the band of exiles also made gang rape jokes about Elain... but Feyre is the villian here.

I really can't follow your logic ...

Also Feyre: If you try and break my mating bond, I'm going to ruin your life.

Also Feyre: If you drag me back to Spring against my will, I'll destroy everything you love.

Tamlin: Break her mating bond so I can drag her back to Spring and we can start over.

it used to be really popular to criticize tamlin, now new readers wont allow folks to say fuck tamlin without ten of his annoying fans being like “but rhys did this” “but feyre was mean :(“ “he deserves a redemption arc”

the rise of misogyny and victim blaming in this fandom normalizes this behavior irl. would you see an abused woman who talks back to her abuser, he shows physical violence towards her, and tell her “well you knew he would react that way. why would you provoke him?? YOU’RE THE MANIPULATIVE ONE.”

especially with the rise of alt-right talking points on tiktok, conservatism, and misogyny. you can’t convince me there isn’t a problem with the way people hate on feyre to prop up her abuser.

acotar and acomaf chronicle feyre’s journey through being a lonely girl who falls in love with a man that promises her safety when she’s never known that, and then becomes controlling and wants to hide her from the world and disempower her. it’s not up for debate. it’s not subtle, it’s very on the nose for an abusive relationship. tamlin didn’t just change over night, you were viewing him through feyre’s rose colored glasses.

when i re-read acotar, i was struck by the fact that feyre and tamlin had maybe two serious conversations where they got to know each other before they were in love. feyre has more serious conversations with rhys in acotar and is able to be herself way more with him, and she notes that herself.

Tamlin: takes Feyre from her mate

Feyre: destroys his court and everything he holds dear

Tamlin:

Made me so upset since I am also a SA victim and it hurts to see people dismiss that

I don’t follow any of the people you mentioned, and I don’t think I’ve seen many posts from them either, so I couldn’t say which specific posts they made. But thank you for letting me know so I can steer clear of them in the future. It’s frustrating that people in the fandom are minimizing something as serious as SA, especially when it comes to Rhysand’s character. Regardless of opinions on him, it’s important to acknowledge his trauma and not erase or invalidate that part of the story.

They never invalidated anything, they said using sexual assault as a shield for any consequences is wrong, which it is. Just because something horrible happens to you, doesn't excuse your horrible actions.

And this is coming from someone who was a victim of DV for 14 CONSECUTIVE YEARS, and witness their father get SA'ed by their mother. That doesn't mean I can sexually assault another person, just because of my trauma.

Multiple serial killers have a traumatic past or horrible familial backgrounds, that doesn't excuse what they've done.

But if they did blame rhysand for what happend or if they said rhysand "enjoyed" it or "wanted" it. Then yes, they'd be in the wrong. But they didn't say that.

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If you don't like a character IM BEGGING YOU TO DO👏🏼 NOT👏🏼 UNDERMINE👏🏼 THEIR👏🏼 TRAUMA!!!

It wouldn't fkn hurt you to admit:

Rhysand was tortured, fucked and beaten for 49 years (his fkn words)

Feyre was neglected and was verbally abused

Nesta was groomed and sexually assaulted

Morrigan was sexually harassed and assaulted by her blood family

Cassian and Azriel are born from r*pe and been verbally abused and not taken seriously their whole life

Azriel was physically abused by his family

Gwyn was gang r*ped

And Lucien was forced to sleep with Ianthe. Just like Rhysand who had no choice in sleeping with Amarantha and had to take her focus from everyone and didn't want to be a s*x slave for her, Lucien was probably guilt tripped by Tam/in to perform their ceremony, he definitely didn't wanted to do it, specially with that priestess even if he says he did it willingly. He had no choice...

Ok crack theory, because I just can’t stop thinking about Emerie since my last post, what if the reason Nesta stans love to forget her is because of her trauma…

Emerie experienced a lot of abuse especially verbal abuse,

But this abuse is SOOOO similar to Feyre’s trauma that she got from Nesta’s abuse

So if Nesta stans were to go on a rant about how evil Emerie’s father is, then their admitting that Nesta is the exact same, and because Nesta is innocent and traumatised they can’t admit that she is an abuser so they just forget Emerie and shove her abuse and trauma under a rug and focus all their energy on Gwyn