I know this isnât something you want to hear, but I think itâs something you need to hear: sometimes someoneâs inability to love you the right way is not their fault. If you are the first person to show someone pure, genuine love, they may not know how to reciprocate because theyâve never experienced it before. In turn, they may not know how to give it back. This doesnât mean that itâs your job to teach them, that you have to tolerate it, or that you deserve it, but Iâve found it incredibly helpful in my own healing to understand that sometimes people arenât hurting you or treating you poorly intentionally. Sometimes people will self sabotage good things because they donât think theyâre worthy of it. Sometimes they just donât know what to do, so they ruin it, whether that be by running away, being disrespectful, or causing pain. Sometimes, people still have their own growing to do. Sometimes it has nothing to do with you, itâs just that you happened to be there in the collateral damage. I donât say this to justify any of their bad actions, but to offer a different perspective that may aid you in forgiving and ultimately reaching your peace.
â alhwrites
All I ever wanted to say but I couldn't find the words to do it.

















