I have thoughts on this!
So like, very specifically
Some relationships are just straight up more actively, consciously valued than others.
And this isn't necessarily about a concrete, definable "type" of relationship.
It's possible to have a person who the only label one has for them is "friend" and they can be more important than literally everyone else, the entire rest of the world combined, even if some of those other people are labeled things like "boyfriend" or "husband".
And that's an extreme example but it's also entirely valid.
It's also really common to want to assign another label to things like that though, when that's explicitly acknowledged rather than some implicit, unconscious thing.
And this is the thing about terms like QPR because it can be used as "Romance Lite" but it can also just be an attempt to quantify the practical reality of "Friend+++++++++++++++++++++".
And this is just, a problem with labels. And a problem with... the actual realities of how relationships, of any kind, work out.
I have a friend like this, at pretty much the most extreme of that. I often shorthand refer to as "best friend" or "partner" or "soulmate". A friend that I am very highly dedicated to, and never want any other consideration to be more important than that friendship.
And like... largely, I don't like hierarchies. But this is someone I've decided will always come first, over any other consideration and if it doesn't work out that way in practice it means I have failed in a meaningful way.
I think some people are trying to use QPR, to a greater or lesser extent, to refer to that type of friend. And some people are going to have that type of friend, even if they don't actually want hierarchies in their relationships, because things are complicated and people ultimately decide what their priorities are, whether that deciding is conscious or unconscious.
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