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It is possible to find both sapphic SFF and M/M fantasy. It is significantly harder to find, say, aro urban fantasy. Or trans romantic suspense. Or intersex mystery.

A lot of the advice above only really works for trad published or popular books and for identities/subgenres/content that aren't too niche.

So here's some advice if the advice above isn't working for you (either because you can't find books with what you want or because the books you are finding don't end up being the vibe you want), from someone who reads a few hundred books a year:

Find websites or lists dedicated to the specific thing you are looking for. They will generally have more variety and will post you to examples that don't show up in regular rec lists. (ex: aro book recs, ace book recs, intersex #ownvoices database, sapphic books). Goodreads lists can (sometimes) also be your friend.

Get comfortable reading self-published and small press books. Trad publishing has its blind spots.

Check Reddit for recommendations

Start figuring out what it is specifically that you like and then start making your searches more specific. This can be subgenre (if you want urban fantasy, you're rarely going to find it just searching "fantasy"), tropes, plot devices, vibes, etc.

Look at the "readers also bought" on Goodreads/Amazon, similar books on Storygraph, etc. if you read a book you like. Even if you don't end up reading the one you click on, it can show you similar authors (similar to looking at the blurb on a cover), especially because far fewer books have blurbs now.

Let’s play the biggest game of kick the can on the internet.

Remote jobs and school? It exists. Sometimes that’s good but it doesn’t work for everything.

Virtual reality? Yeah. Most people don’t like it and it makes some people sick if they use it but it’s got its niche.

Brain chips? Really useful for some disabled people. The rest of us don’t really want the internet in our brains though tbh.

Like, Rose may not have been monogamous or had a baby with Pearl, but they literally gave up everything they knew and fought a war just to build a new life together in a new planet and lived together for milennia. That's not a casual thing! That's a life changing commitment - because it's not like Rose or Pearl could ever back out of that. They couldn't spend two years together then go back to their old lives. They decided to take the plunge and tie their lives in a way that couldn't be fully undone even if they wanted to.

BUT THEN IN THEIR MISREPRESENTATION POLICY THEY SAY YOU CAN'T COLLECT MONEY TO A BANK ACCOUNT THAT'S NOT IN YOUR BUSINESS OR LEGAL NAME. BUT MY LEGAL NAME INCLUDES DICK, WHICH YOU CONSIDER OFFENSIVE.