But doctor.....

Because all of the worst parts of my body, the parts that gave me to worst dysphoria, have been completely changed. I've had bottom surgery, I've been on HRT for almost 5 years, I have boobs, all my fat is in different places, I've done voice training and I actually like how my voice sounds now. Like, physically there is nothing about me that is the same as it was before I transitioned. And the same goes for the non-medical stuff too. I've figured out what my style is, and I'm happy with it. I've completely eliminated the "masculine behaviors" I intentionally learned to adopt when I was young so that I could try and be what was expected of me. I just see the woman I am in the mirror, and in my mannerisms, and in my voice, not the "man" I tried to be before transition. "He" is completely gone. And it makes me unbelievably happy!

But still that general feeling of dysphoria is there when I'm not actively percieving myself. Like, the general feeling of "I hate my body, this isn't my body" is there in the background, until I actually look at myself in the mirror, or I hear myself speak, or I feel the way I move, or I actively think about the fact that I have a vulva and a vagina. Only then, when I'm actively percieving myself, does that feeling go away.

My subconscious perception of myself still essentially thinks I look and sound and act like how I did before I transitioned. And I think it's because of the "ship of theseus" nature of transition. It's not a sudden thing. You don't go in for "the surgery" looking and sounding and acting like a cis man and come out in four hours fully transitioned and indistinguishable from a cis woman, as so many movies and tv shows portray it. There is no disconnect between your pre-transition self and your fully transitioned self, there is full continuity of the self because the changes are extremely gradual. Transition is an evolution not a sudden miraculous transformation.

And that seems to have been double for me. It took even longer for me to reach this point than it seems to for most trans women. Like, it filled me with an indescribable envy when I read Julia Serano describe how just 6 months into HRT she completely "passed" and basically never got misgendered by the general public ever again. It took my 3 years to reach that point. It took me another year before I finally got bottom surgery and finally start to identify with my body.

mostly, on this app, i see transandrophobia being used to mean the oppression faced by transmasculine individuals. i am not trying to deny that this oppression exists or even compare it to the oppression faced by transfeminine individuals.

however, the term transmisogyny does not refer to the oppression faced by transfeminine individuals, rather it is a term based in the philosophy of intersectionality—looking specifically at how misogyny is weaponized against trans women.

TME trans people often just say “I’m trans” and don’t clarify they are a man/masc, nor actually do any work to explain whether they are affected by transmisogyny or not. They love the rush they feel when the person they’re talking to takes a less defensive posture when realizing they aren’t TMA.

"look, I can even make the transphobes gender me correctly by making them think I'm *like you*, isn't it awesome how I'm able to do that?"

OP starts off by declaring her hatred for people who use tma and tme, confidently lecturing and reminding 'you' [trans women/fems] about the fact that while 'you' [trans women/fems] experience transmisogyny, 'we' [trans men/mascs, not trans women] experience "regular misogyny"

Set aside for now the way op implicitly positions trans women as not being subject to "regular misogyny" same as her, and watch what she does next.

She recounts a recent shopping experience with her father and then starts going off about how if 'you' [OP's father] would just do a little bit of actual research then 'you' [OP's father] would not be so ignorant about period product. Why are 'you' [OP's father] stigmatizing 'your' [OP's father] child's body!

At the beginning of the post, OP is venting at and lecturing 'you' [trans women], but by the end OP is all caps yelling at 'you' [OP's father].

We can see that her father is the actual source of her current anger and frustration, but OP takes that anger and vents it at trans women and fems instead of her father who it should be rightfully directed at.

Like, I'm not the biggest fan of TADC, I thought it was fine, but it wasn't what I would call subtle about its themes. TADC exists very firmly in the Millennial Adult Animated series subtype, which means it looks like a kids show, while being about adult emotions, and also states its ideas extremely clearly. There's a bunch of these (BoJack Horseman and Rick & Morty are the big ones in my estimations). They are extremely direct and very blunt, which is in my mind just a neutral statement. Directness is neither positive nor negative

So here comes this show, which spends a huge chunk of its runtime explaining how basically all of the characters are damaged and need to accept themselves to heal, and then spends a MASSIVE chunk of its double length final episode detailing how its biggest piece of shit character became the way she is via a mix of self loathing and fear of her own identity, culminating with her begging the main character not to love her, literally indicating that she believes her own actions have made her irredeemable, AND THEN the whole show emotionally climaxes with said main character embracing her, choosing to love her anyway...