The nsfw side of me.

I love the posts by other doms, subs, littles, cgs, etc that reinforce the fact that it's not all sunshine and butterflies all the time. That it takes work. That guide others on how to treat eachother correctly, care for eachother, communicate. I absolutely LOVE that there are hundreds upon hundreds of these posts.

What I don't love... what drives me batshit crazy, is that they are almost all from a cis-het male perspective. Yes, I realize that is the most common demographic (in theory... I might argue that. But that is a matter for further research and for another day). But yeah...

I am a demi, bi, agender individual. I am a dom. I am a daddy dom. I have, and have had partners from all over the entire gender and sexuality experience, and I have loved them all for themselves. They all played different roles in my life.

Let it be known that some people with a penis are women, just like some women have green eyes. Some people with a vagina are men, just like some men were born with one arm. Some people with either of those parts are neither male nor female, or are both. The particular parts of your individual body neither invalidate nor define who you are!

Not all doms are straight men. Not all doms are men at all. Just as not all subs are women. Not all subs are 5'5" tall with a 38" chest. Hell! Not all subs are even smaller than their doms! Not all littles are "little". Not all cg-l relationships are dd/lg. Some "daddies" have little boys. Some "mommies" have little girls. Some of both have both! Sometimes in the same person, on BOTH sides! Some are sexual in nature, some aren't. Some are... sometimes.

So, I see you and love you, all you trans and nb, lgbtq+ people, doms, subs, cgs, and littles! I see you and love you, all you littles who aren't little of stature! I see you and love you, all you people with penises, with vaginas, whether you are men, women, both, or neither! I see you and love you, all of you who are neuro-divergent! I see you and love you, all of you p.o.c.! You belong here too! You deserve to be loved, included, seen, represented, and safe here too! And, at least on my blogs, you are 100% welcomed with open arms!

This one is about aftercare and specifically what your body needs to heal a wound

This one is a fairly basic guide to training a submissive, I feel there's some really important information here especially for beginners (both dom and sub) and I think more experienced players will get something out of it too

This one is a deep dive into brats, how to control them as a dom and some advice for brats

This one is about the mechanics of impact play, it talks about force = mass x acceleration and how to appraise an impact toy before using it (skip this one, it's very boring, I only included it because it was my first)

This one is a primer on heavy impact play, nowhere does it say you cant do something only the risks of doing so

This one is how to give someone a black eye

This one is a primer on doing a drowning scene (or 'dunking' if you prefer)

This one is a guide to pulling out finger nails

It seems like a lot of people in the abdl community don’t know about diaper fluffing, so I thought I’d make a quick tutorial! If you’re not sure what diaper fluffing is, it’s basically breaking up the fibers in your diaper to let air in, and make them thicker and more comfortable! Diapers are packed SUUUPER tight to make shipping cheaper, so your diapers won’t come out of the package as fluffy as they should be! Here’s how you do it

Step 1: Unfold your diaper all the way (pretty easy)

Step 2: Fold your diaper in half hotdog style, then gently pull your hands in opposite directions up and down the fold you made. You should feel the material giving a little as you do this. BE CAREFUL AND DON’T RIP THE DIAPER

Step 3: Unfold your diaper, and do the same thing to the inside, gently pulling your hands apart

Step 4: Voilà! Fluffed and ready to go!

Here’s a picture of the diaper I fluffed next to one right out of the package

The difference is really amazing! Hope this helps you guys! Stay dry 💖

Vet for high risk play. If you don't have the utmost trust in someone, control what you're putting in your own body and know where it all came from.

Check for interactions. Yes, this means sharing complete information about whatever medications the person getting drugged is on. No, the interactions are not always intuitive. Yes, this includes things like alcohol. Ideally, ask your doctor about interactions with whatever you're about to play with- they're trained in spotting interactions, you're probably not.

If you've checked the interactions yourself, assume you might have missed something. Even if you've gotten your doctor to check, be aware they might have missed something. I once caught a potassium deficiency issue in someone's existing medication that their doctor prescribed them.

ROUND 1- Use it for its own sake before you play with it. Spend the time together and set yourself up for success: easy access to food, water, comfort media, and comfortable places to sit and lie down. Know how long it should last. Get someone who's used it before to tripsit if you can. Don't give yourself any tasks that involve new skills. Be ready to offer yourself or your partner a redirect from negative or anxious trains of thought.

Know what a good time on your drug physically looks and feels like. This is crucial, because things might go sideways in a way you're not expecting. Don't just be watching for specific signs of an overdose (though those are worth keeping in mind too)- if something seems wrong, get help. Seconds matter and you're probably not a professional.

Similarly: if the drug is at all sedative, or a downer, or long-lasting, and they're unconscious before it's out of their system, check for breathing and check for pulse. Also, your risk profile is your own, but I don't fuck around with hard sedatives- there's too fine a line between which body systems they shut down.

Start with a low-to-standard dose, and adjust doses for any relevant interactions (e.g. estradiol approximately halves liver tolerance [alcohol, weed, diphenhydramine], SSRIs approximately double psychedelic tolerance).

In order to avoid dependence issues, I wait a default of two weeks between recreational uses of any drug. (I only count caffeine here if I'm having more than two cups of tea in a day.)

ROUND 2- Play with it scripted and above board before you play with it in an explicitly cnc way. Your communication and mental state will have shifted, and you'll need to learn to accommodate that; make sure you try things out without added communication barriers first. Also, make sure to talk about how everything went afterwards when you're both sober!

If you're going to adjust doses, do it slowly and carefully. Most easily accessible recreational drugs can be incremented by half the standard dose. Some drugs are incredibly sensitive to fine adjustments; this is why Fentanyl, for example, is so dangerous and not recommended to use.

ROUND 3- Don't get comfortable. Try to have as peaceful and relaxed an experience as you want, and keep an eye on things as you play with different emotional states- but DEFINITELY continue to keep an eye on safety. It doesn't stop being a concern because you've done it once and everything went fine.

Alcohol is not only a factor: its one of the worst offenders for having numerous dangerous interactions.

If someone becomes unconscious unexpectedly you also need to roll them on their side in case they vomit. Do not leave them alone until they are through it.

SSRIs may cause drugs not to work, but that doesn't make it safe to take more. Seratonin syndrome is deadly, and it will hurt the whole time.

MAOIs have similar risks

Many over the counter cold medicines include DXM which act on seratonin and carry similar risks. (In general, don't mix things that inhibit seratonin with things that generate excess seratonin.)

Erowid.org is your friend: they have dose amounts, onset times, interaction information as well as detailed accounts of others experiences.

Dancesafe.org is your friend. They have test kits, narcan, and a wealth of other harm reduction tools.

There's a reason a trans service top is such a hot commodity, a reason we don't see a lot of them.

In my experience, which is transfem, we are seen as predatory. But it goes deeper still than that for just about any top and dom.

See, when subs express their desires it's often at their own expense. "Please rape me, choke me, drown me, etc."

But a dom expresses their desire at someone else's expense. "I want to rape you, I want to choke you, I want to drown you, I want to cut you, etc."

Its easy to blow off a sub expressing desire at their expense in a kink space. But I feel like it's harder for people who don't understand these types of kinks to be comfortable around us.

Which usually leads to exclusion.

You can be discomforted with me as a service top with a snuff kink, but excluding me is actionable and not okay for a healthy environment.

And subs, bottoms, doms and tops need aftercare to. I get that we are doing horrid things to you and you need to be taken care of afterward, but holy hell you need to check in with us as the ones doing these things at your expense. We love you! That's why we do this, but please take care of us to.

Often I see subs and bottoms expecting all the attention and care and giving none of it back.

Please be kind to your tops and doms, especially when they have very hard kinks such as a myself.

I don’t know how much longer I can last like this 🥵

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I am, however, a big fan of robots who are like “oh the pussy? yeah I built this myself because I thought it’d be a cool engineering challenge. The base is just a fleshlight in my favorite color but I souped it up with a bunch of upgrades and LEDs. Some of the parts are technically illegal in the EU but who’s checking? Cool huh? It’s mostly done, I’m pretty much just experimenting and optimizing now. Making room for it did significantly decrease the structural stability of my pelvis but it’s so worth it”

or “yeah I want to have sex bc I want to experience intimacy of some sort and it sounds fun, but I don’t really wanna start cutting or welding to make that happen, so I just have this xbox controller I plug in and if you mash the buttons right I’ll come. It’s pretty convenient really. Wanna play mario kart”

or “look, I don’t have the time to explain the metaphorical and physical crossed wires and psychological mess of reward pathways that make this work for me, but if you immobilize me and reach all the way in there and gently loosen that wire until it starts sparking I am going to bust a metaphorical and physical nut”

or “horny? eh, I wouldn’t call it that. I just really like watching this one technician squirm and the strap-on is the easiest way to do it and keep them coming back”

User heart-limb-pen & his 3 other blogs shown a pattern of trying to befriend women then emotionally manipulating them into developing it into a sexual relationship.

This user is incredibly jealous of the women he likes talking to other guys & has become hostile toward women just for reblogging my content.

This information comes from multiple of my mutuals who have had problems with him being nice at first then becoming angry when rejected.

Please, for your safety BLOCK:

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Hate to break it to you but everything is a fetish. Drinking water? Fetish. Eating? Fetish. Sneezing? Fetish. Clearing your throat? Fetish. Burping, farting, pissing, shitting, walking, sitting, standing, having your mouth visible when you talk, making certain mouth sounds, your accent (yes yours), your skin color (yes yours), makeup, lack-of-makeup, smelling bad, smelling good, smelling neutral, hair, lips, noses, eyes, ears, chins, shoulders, necks, armpits, elbows, fingers, chests, stomachs, backs, hips, thighs, knees, knee pits, ankles, toes, soles - all fetishes. Like it or not someone somewhere will Perceive You and they will Like What They See.

And they will be silent and normal about it because guess what? Fetishes are normal and most people know how to conduct themselves around others tactfully. We only ever find out about specific fetishes as they relate to us in particular when someone is choosing to be decidedly Not Normal about it, so we assume everyone who has those fetishes is a tactless weirdo. Rookie mistake. I guarantee some of your friends have fetishes for innocuous non-sexual things too, and it doesn't make them some kind of pervert creep.