marryana'karka'rosen'innit (and hori too)

That is a tiny minority of trans men, and you are excluding a huge number of trans men who do not fit into the necessary criteria to access some kind of male privilege.

Manhood isn't incompatible with femininity. It's not even incompatible with womanhood.

Assuming that trans mascs must hate and reject all femininity if they really are men is supporting toxic masculinity.

Hinting that they're still in some way women (if they've expressed that's not part of their gender) and/or straight if they're into men simply because they're gnc is transphobic.

First time was about vaginoplasties being "axe wounds." Which was directed at transfems, but also has nasty implications for anybody who has needed surgery on their vaginas (including perisex cis women needing stitches after the birth of a baby) and intersex people who have had their genitals altered (either forcefully, in the case of IGM*, or by their own will).

Second time was about bottom growth, where the clitoris enlarges in response to a change in hormones, and the radfem called it "disgusting." The intent was to spurn transmascs, but it also has the effect of putting down menopausal individuals, and anybody else with hormone ratios uncharacteristic of a young perisex cis woman.

(By the way, notice how both these instances shamed intersexuality?)

There is nothing feminist about constantly redefining femininity so that it can be used as a weapon for destroying "imperfect women."

While denying the femaleness of trans women's physical characteristics resulting from transition, TERFs continue to treat those characterists as their own property because they are female-like. This means that they impose restrictions and obligations on trans women just because they posses pieces of what TERFs consider to be their propriety. They view femininity and femaleness as resources that they have ownership over and one of the conditions for access includes "not being born with a dick." This is why TERFs sometimes claim that trans women degrade or violate cis women simply because they make porn while looking like women, even when their transgender status is clearly indicated! Literally terf-owned bodies

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They truly consider themselves to be the sole rightful owners of "femininity/femaleness". They don't just have their own individual characteristics, they believe they own femaleness as a general model. And why do they gatekeep what they clearly see as a resource, if not for heterosexual competition? All this territorial behavior is implicitly based on the belief that cis women are the only valid objects of cis men's desire for sex, intimacy, couple, marriage, family, and all kinds of positive treatment and considerations associated with being a woman (cisgender). They believe that cis male's emotional resources should not be "diverted" from cis women the owners, by directing them to invalid recipients such as trans women, but also trans men and cisgender men. They believe that all these other groups, especially if they are AMAB, do not ''deserve'' these things

....This is also why so many cis women are insecure about cis male gayness or bisexuality. they feel that their monopoly over cismale's sexual and romantic attention is threatened, which translates into homophobia

I honestly believe that this partly explains why we are seeing a resurgence of homophobia towards cis gay men among some cis feminists

Add this all into the giant melting pot of an extremely transphobic and intersexist political landscape — I need to make a change for myself. That change while small that holds no bearing to anyone else is simply the act of using the word Virr and Virrhood alongside the word male and manhood.

raising little girls strictly according to female gender roles means discouraging them from getting their clothes dirty, punishing them for being loud and rowdy, and generally just preparing them for a life 'in the home' and keeping them busy with learning domestic chores. that means no sports, no playing with the boys. girls dont sweat, dont stink, dont wrestle or chase each other or play in the mud. so why are they sometimes allowed to?

its because the girls that spend their childhood passively sitting or staying indoors, who dont engage in play that helps their physical fitness and bone density develop grow into fragile mothers that are more likely to die in childbirth, can produce fewer children, and often suffer from higher rates of mental and physical illness. so a lot of patriarchal cultures have begrudgingly allowed their daughters to 'act like boys' in childhood because the expectation is that when they grow up, theyll just force them to conform to expectations and give all that up

the problem is its also an extremely isolating childhood. we dont learn how to socialize from the girls because they shun us, and the boys treat us with the same brand of sexism they treat the girly girls. some more accepting boys may allow us to tag along because of our similarities, and we may put up with the misogyny because theyre the only ones that will tolerate us, but it isnt this "escape" from the patriarchy that it looks like from the outside. we still fight with our mothers when we dont want to wear a dress to that reunion, or dont want a hot curling iron near our hair. we are still shamed for our masculinity and rewarded for 'embracing' girliness by most of society

when tomboys grow up, we enter the world with limited social skills due to a childhood of ostracization, struggle to conform to the gender roles that have suddenly slammed into us without warning, and have to learn thousands of intensely scrutinized behaviors and mannerisms and ways to dress and look. suddenly these cute 'tomboyish' behaviors arent accepted anymore. girls spread rumors about us, isolate and treat us like shit. boys decide that we aren't 'female' enough to escape violence, except we get an extra dose of sexual assault to 'fix' us. being a tomboy in childhood has pros and cons, but existence as a masculine teenaged girl is hell

that being said, i want to stress that yes, men and people perceived to be men get punished more severely for gender deviance than women and people perceived to be women. in part its because femininity is inherently viewed as inferior to masculinity, but we also need to keep in mind that men do have more power than women in our society, both socially and financially. because of this, they are a bigger threat to the patriarchy and are punished harsher for going against it and breaking its most sacred rules

a lot of these terfs don't realize they're on the menu too.

Transmisogyny (and in the interest of being fair, also transandrophobia) is NOT analogous to racism, and a fetish you find "icky" isn't the same as calling someone the n word. If you sincerely think they are, please delete your Tumblr account and speak to one (1) singular black person about their struggles. Or, actually, don't, since you're so good at making other people's problems all about you, so maybe read theory first. As I'm finishing writing this, I've just realised how similar it is to TERFs trying to claim trans women are doing "womanface" and that it's just as offensive to them as blackface is to black people. Or when someone tried to claim I was doing "whiteface" for not speaking like a character from City of God according to "my roots". If you're wondering what they have in common, it starts with Wh and ends with ite

They already read Whipping Girl, what more can you reasonably expect of them? To read something by a Black person? They're uncomfortable when things aren't about them, that's just asking too much.

I think TRFs see the social expectation to be apologetic to Black people that comes out of white guilt and feel both demeaned by it and jealous of Black people because they perceive them as being advantaged by that dynamic.

It's some real conservative anti-SJW shit, but instead of getting outwardly mad at Black people they internalize how much they want it for themselves and look for every opportunity to equalize it to their situation.

I really think this binary will be the good one that works out.

They literally do think that, yes.

Yeah, but like, they've clicked for Palestine every day though.

I'm tired too, anon. I'm sorry.