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If there were to be an annual event — obviously not in person right now because of the pandemic — where you could meet other lesbians who happen to be into hot ass milfs of the silver screen, color screen and performing arts. Just your general lesbian films, books, television shows/pairings, etc.

Would you attend? Kind of like Star Trek cons but like all media forms that involve lesbians specifically, open to anyone over the age of 18.

We were thinking it’d be cool to either start off with a once a month movie watch on zoom with a bunch of fellow lady lovin folk, who would join. I can arrange and host (likely with my wife), but I want to see who else is in.

I made a Discord to kind of drum up a list of who’s here and queer and ready to enthuse about the gays we love.

Anyways we now live in Vegas so it’d be fun to eventually move it to somewhere we can all kind of meet up and just be gay and do fun gay/other things!

You in?

Discord: https://discord.gg/8Jj9JzNw

Please signal boost!

Compulsory heterosexuality, also known as coercive heteronormativity* is something that affects all lesbians, everywhere in the world. It also applies to women of other sexualities, and has been observed to occur in men as well (although argued to be to a lesser extent than women). However, it is mostly commonly attributed to lesbians.

*I believe since the creator of the former term was a political lesbian, people have created other terms, but they all refer to the same phenomenon.

What is compulsory heterosexuality?

Also known as “comp het”, compulsory heterosexuality refers to a kind of heteronormativity that affects people on an individual level. Since people are assumed straight until proven otherwise, and society, media, and family life are all incredibly heteronormative, we grow up thinking that we are supposed to be straight as well. For women, comp het also includes the pressure to involve men in every aspect of our lives, including (especially) romantic, as pushed on us by the patriarchy. An example of the effects of comp het is not knowing that liking the same sex was even a possibility, so assuming that you must be straight.

How do you recognize comp het as a lesbian?

This is something I personally have struggled with immensely, and these examples come from both my personal experience and from what other people have told me about their experiences. Of course, not everyone experiences all of these, and there may be other signs of comp het not listed here as well.

Being in relationships with men for validation, attention, popularity, etc, and not because you actually like the men you date

Analyzing every guy you meet to see if you should crush on him (if you choose to have a crush, it’s not real attraction)

Alternatively, randomly selecting a guy to crush on, just to have a crush and fit in with all the other girls

Why you crush on certain men is because of logical reasons and not because of any feelings attached (eg. This guy is responsible and performs well in school, so your parents would approve if you date him)

Thinking that you must be romantically attracted to any conventionally attractive guy you meet, even if you’ve never spoken to him

Thinking you must be attracted to any of your male friends, because girls “obviously” can’t have guy friends without having a crush on them

All your fantasies about men revolve around the future, in order to satisfy a desire of having a “perfect” nuclear family (a house in the suburbs, two kids, husband always at work so you can never see him and be intimate with him)

The thought of doing anything sexual with a man grosses you out

Any sexual fantasies about a man involve a faceless figure that doesn’t feel like a real person

Not being able to relate when your straight female friends talk about guys they like

Only wanting a boyfriend so he can provide you emotional support

Wanting a boyfriend so you won’t be lonely

Wanting a boyfriend to get approval from friends, family, society

Believing those reports that claim every woman finds other women attractive so you can rest safely in the knowledge that even though you find girls hot, you’re still “straight”

Having female friends in childhood or adolescence you were “very close to”, to the extent that you spent all your time thinking about them or followed them around school

Focusing on the woman in sex scenes

All your male crushes were fictional men or unattainable celebrities, so you could be safe in the fact that you’d never have to actually date them

Thinking that a guy being nice to you means you should date him

Thinking guys are cute from afar, but when you get closer to them, you find so many parts of them to be unattractive (eg. hands, hair, body odour, etc)

Liking guys until they reciprocate interest, after which you try to avoid them as much as possible

Knowing that you’re a lesbian from an early age, but try to force yourself to like men because liking girls must “just be a phase” or you’re “just confused”

Testing whether or not you’re attracted to men by trying to like randomly chosen guys to see if it could be possible

Knowing that you only like girls now, but convincing yourself you might like guys in the future, as long as you “meet the right guy”

Assuming you have to like men because that’s what girls are supposed to do

Believing the societal myth that women aren’t supposed to enjoy sex, and that’s why you dislike having sex with men

Misinterpretating anxiety as being romantic butterflies

Convincing yourself that you like men because being a lesbian seems too hard to deal with

Thinking attraction is supposed to feel nauseating and uncomfortable

Having “crushes” on certain men because you admire something they’re able to do (eg. “I must like this guy because I really like how well he plays the guitar”)

Not having feelings for men but being able to tolerate being with men

1. Do you ever doubt the existence of others than you?

2. On a scale of 1-5, how afraid of the dark are you?

3. The person you would never want to meet?

4. What is your favorite word?

5. If you were a type of tree, what would you be?

6. When you looked in the mirror this morning what was the first thing you thought?

7. What shirt are you wearing?

8. What do you label yourself as?

9. Bright room or dark room?

10. What were you doing at midnight last night?

11. Favorite age you’ve been so far?

12. Who told you they loved you last?

13. Your worst enemy?

14. What is your current desktop picture?

15. Do you like someone?

16. The last song you listened to?

17. You can press a button that will make any one person explode. Who would you blow up?

18. Who would you really like to just punch in the face?

19. If anyone could be your slave for a day, who would it be and what would they have to do?

20. What is your best physical attribute? (showing said attribute is optional)

21. If you were the opposite sex for one day, what would you look like and what would you do?

22. Do you have a secret talent? If yes, what is it?

23. What is one unique thing you’re afraid of?

24. You can only have one kind of sandwich. Every sandwich ingredient known to humankind is at your disposal.

25. You just found $100! How are you going to spend it?

26. You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere in the world, but you have to leave immediately. Where are you going to go?

27. An angel appears out of Heaven and offers you a lifetime supply of the alcoholic beverage of your choice. “Be brand-specific” it says. Man! What are you gonna say about that? Even if you don’t drink booze there’s something you can figure out… so what’s it gonna be?

28. You discover a beautiful island upon which you may build your own society. You make the rules. What is the first rule you put into place? 

29. What is your favorite expletive?

30. Your house is on fire, holy shit! You have just enough time to run in there and grab ONE inanimate object. Don’t worry, your loved ones and pets have already made it out safely. So what’s the one thing you’re going to save from that blazing inferno?

31. You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?

32. You got kicked out of the country for being a time-traveling heathen who sleeps with celebrities and has super-powers. But check out this cool shit… you can move to anywhere else in the world!

33. The Celestial Gates Of Beyond have opened, much to your surprise because you didn’t think such a thing existed. Death appears. As it turns out, Death is actually a pretty cool entity, and happens to be in a fantastic mood. Death offers to return the friend/family-member/person/etc. of your choice to the living world. Who will you bring back?

34. What was your last dream about?

35. Are you a good….[insert anything you’d like here]?

36. Have you ever been admitted to the hospital?

37. Have you ever built a snowman?

38. What is the color of your socks?

39. What type of music do you like?

40. Do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?

41. What is your favorite milkshake flavor?

42. What football team do you support? (I will answer in terms of American football as well as soccer)

43. Do you have any scars?

44. What do you want to be when you graduate?

45. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

46. Are you reliable?

47. If you could ask your future self one question, what would it be?

48. Do you hold grudges?

49. If you could breed two animals together to defy the laws of nature, what new animal would you create?

50. What is the most unusual conversation you’ve ever had?

51. Are you a good liar?

52. How long could you go without talking?

53. What has been you worst haircut/style?

54. Have you ever baked your own cake?

55. Can you do any accents other than your own?

56. What do you like on your toast?

57. What is the last thing you drew a picture of?

58. What would be you dream car?

59. Do you sing in the shower? Or do anything unusual in the shower? Explain.

60. Do you believe in aliens?

61. Do you often read your horoscope?

62. What is your favorite letter of the alphabet?

63. Which is cooler: dinosaurs or dragons?

64. What do you think about babies?

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