obi-wan simulator

like i genuinely think that if Anakin acted bratty/subby Obi-Wan would go soft instantly from the anxiety memories from their trouble years. and if Anakin went meek and subby he'd get indecisive and frustrated (and low key resentful tbh bc maybe Anakin could have displayed this behaviour in front of the council and spared Obi-Wan many headaches if he enjoyed it so much).

this is specifically a book take tbh, but Obi-Wan is a character that's hyper competent, has a lot of responsibility, and is in a high leadership role. as a jedi, he does not allow himself space for doubt. he is decisive. he is always in control. he has control issues, and he likes for things to be in particular and predictable ways.

interpersonally? the man is a mess. he struggles to control Anakin. he hates *trying* to control Anakin (he wants to be a brother and not a father figure). he cannot communicate his emotions or be honestly about them. he is indecisive, anxious, avoidant, and out of his depth every single year Anakin is a padawan.

he also struggled somewhat similarly with Qui-Gon, questioning his behavior towards his master *constantly* in a way he never questioned his actions as jedi padawan (after a certain age).

RIGHT! like, Obi-Wan wouldn't enjoy domming, but that's fine because Anakin wouldn't enjoy being dommed by him either. Because he is an ass that would dislike being under even *more* of Obi-Wan's control. They already tried that for 9 padawan years and it didn't work comfortably for either of them.

Anakin is the opposit of Obi-Wan, a guy who has no control over his life (born a slave, then enthrust with a destiny and a very controlled lifestyle that does not come naturally to him), and *desperatly* wants control over his life/loved ones/death etc. Wants it so much he kills a lot of people trying (and failing) to get it.

Nay - Hektor - you who to me are father, mother, brother, and dear husband - have mercy upon me; stay here upon this wall; make not your child fatherless, and your wife a widow (Il. 6.429-32)

a snippet from clone wars: siege that made me laugh

Weep for yourself, my man You’ll never be what is in your heart Weep, little lion man You’re not as brave as you were at the start

Obi-Wan and Boga

Through the Force, he felt in the beast an unshakable commitment to obedience and care for its rider: an almost Jedi-like devotion to service as the ultimate duty (…)

“You’d best find your way home, girl,” he said, patting Boga’s scaled neck. “One way or another, I doubt I’ll have further need of your assistance.”

Boga gave a soft, almost regretful honk of acknowledgment, then bent a sharper curve into her long flexible neck to place her beak gently against Obi-Wan’s chest.

“It’s all right, Boga. I thank you for your help, but to stay here will be dangerous. This area is about to become a free-fire zone. Please. Go home.”