Exploring kink as a switch ❤

And I fucking love my partner giving me a reason to be proud of them and hyping them up with praise. In my case I really value obedience, control, and sexual service. So any time they obey an order, defer a decision to me, or please me without hesitation/resistance I dial it up and layer on the praise until I make them blush and make them feel how proud of them I am. And I'm consistent with when I hand out that praise and I'm effusive and genuine with my praise. If I want my sub to gush for me all the time, then I'm going to gush over them all the time.

I sprinkle in some negative reinforcement for variety sometimes, usually only as necessary and only very briefly. It's not as effective as positive reinforcement typically, but it can be a useful tone setter for expectations. A swift hard slap on the ass, a prompt stern look, and a verbal "know your place" will do wonders for reinforcing expectations and keeping them on track whenever my sub falters or hesitates doing the behaviors I want to see out of them. It will keep them on their toes to behave, and to behave properly to my standards, not theirs.

This will not get you the behaviors you want to see out of them overnight. It will take years and you will have to stay consistent over all that time. But it's hard to deny the results when you say "kneel" and they don't even have time to process what you said before they're on their knees waiting for your praiseful adoration like Pavlov's dog. As if it's automatic for them. The behaviors you conditioned in them over time become their instincts. It's a beautiful sight.

You’re a protector

A lover

A warm place to land.

My submissive wakes up to voice messages, music, and doting every morning. He gets gifts and praise and occasionally punishment. He gets affection that is so well deserved.

He is reminded how special he is. His safety and happiness is my goal. Not breaking him for my own ego.

Don’t forget who gave you the power you have. Appreciate that shit. Let it make you move differently as a Dom/me.

And do it again

and again

and again

and again