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A dear friend of mine, author and artist in the community, Roji, also known here currently as "My-tummy-hurts"

Has passed away, as of April 8th, 2026.

They were one of my oldest friends. They had a lot they wanted to explore and create. So much they wanted to do. They were so explosively creative and had such wild ideas.

I apologize if this is not terribly eloquent. I only just found out, such is the nature of internet friendship. But the idea of that real person, that creativity, my friend, just... Disappearing. With nobody that enjoyed their art, their passions, knowing what actually happened. Is an ugly part of our current reality I am not content to allow while I can do something about it.

They talked with me, supported me, through the start of my career, writing in a friend's basement. Some of their early stories were what made me want to begin writing in the first place. Without Roji, I might not have ever been here, creating stories for people to enjoy.

We stayed in touch through moving to another state to find love. Through the soul obliterating covid/burnout/dropout/divorce breakdown combo. They were always there. Another story idea, another amazing piece of art, another project to work on, build, create, another skill they wanted to master. Endlessly creative.

It is tragic they never got to share the things they wanted to with you all. They made models and props, they wrote plays for their local theatre, they sculpted and worked with so many materials and models.

They were a truly amazing person. All I can think to say, over and over, is how creative and imaginative and caring they were.

I am going to miss you, Roji. I already do. So, so fucking much. I'm sorry I couldn't do more.

but you deserve to give informed consent to that process.

the lies around pregnancy - that it's inherently safe, that it doesn't do you permanent damage, that it's only extremely rare for people to die of pregnancy complications, etc like

all of these are lies constructed so that more people will get pregnant w/o knowing all that

there needs to be more talk about the impact of miscarriages and how common they are, how different abortion processes are and how accessible they are

but also like. talking about how pregnancy fucks your body up should not be taboo

this is a process that permanently changes most people's bodies, and that's even if the pregnancy doesn't do them like. severe illness or injury

and i just think everybody should have a right to KNOW that

When I was pregnant I was in a million forums for pregnant people because (cough adhd hyperfixation) and I had something called SPD (Symphysis pubis dysfunction) (not Sensory Processing Disorder though I also have that) which is where your pubic bones separate early (more or less) because they get all loosey goosey as your body gets ready to crank that baby out.

Except my pubic bone got confused and got misaligned at like 3 months pregnant. I could barely walk. I couldn't roll over in bed. Doing something that required me to shift my weight from one foot to another like opening a door knob was like an excruciatingly painful knife being stabbed into my pubic bone, I can't express how intense and blinding it was.

So I am in one million baby forums like "am I dying what is happening why is there a knife in my pubic bone" and all these people are like "I have that too! my doctor says it's normal and not to worry because it doesn't hurt the baby. I just deal with it by laying in bed for months in excruciating pain and think about how lucky I am to be having a little miracle growing in my body."

So lol nope. I went to my midwife and they are like, "Oh squeeze a can between your knees look up a physical therapy youtube on SPD" and I did that can-squeeze thing and it CURED THE PROBLEM in ONE DAY. I had been SUFFERING, y'all, it felt miraculous.

And I was so full of rage (flames, flames on the side of my face) that people are being told "Oh, it's NORMAL just deal with it" "It doesn't hurt the baby." Like, look, yes it's NORMAL but it's 100% treatable!!! SPD (again, not Sensory processing disorder) affects 1 in 5 pregnant people.

I was lucky to have amazing midwives (need a gender neutral term for that profession, but they see pregnant men and women)(side note highly recommend midwives if you are gender nonconfirming/a man/etc) and I have DOZENS of examples of shit like this.

Some people in moderate car crashes are very lucky, and walk away with zero injury. Some are very unlucky, and die. But most people fall into the third category, where they'll be injured at the time, then heal, and then for the rest of their life they have some minor and liveable complication from the injury. Like a knee that lets you know when the rain is coming, or a back that doesn't like seats without lumbar support, or a shoulder that never quite gets its full range of motion back.

she's been suffering with this since she gave birth to me. I'm 38 years old. she had that surgery last week.

Granted, it still needs to be updated because not just women give birth.

Here is an etymologically equivalent but gender neutral term I just made:

Word kept. Say hi to my girl, Krystal.

Word kept. Say hi to my girl, Krystal.