hey why do we hate trans men now? moreover, since when did feminism become so… toxic? when did we transform from pro-women to anti-men?
i thought the whole point was that women are just as human as men? that we’re all humans? when did we decide that that wasn’t true anymore?
why do people react to trans men coming out like they’re losing a soldier? do we not see the parallels here with parents claiming they’re “loosing their child” after they transition? why do we now think that trans people never experience life as their assigned sex? why do we now think that trans men have no difficulty passing?
as a young trans woman, researching HRT, I once learned how testosterone deepens the voice, and that estrogen does not. and for a brief moment, i felt jealous. but, i let it slide. c’est la vie, y’know? i’m happy for them that they get that one benefit that i don’t.
maybe i’m going out on a limb here, but is there some kind of like, jealousy going on towards trans men? perhaps jealous that they were born the way we wish we were? jealous that their hormones do some affirming things that ours don’t? is that what this is about? jealousy spiraling into prejudice?
i don’t know. can’t say for certain. but with my experiences as a trans girl, i could see that being the case.
not that that’s a defense of them, but it’s… sad, almost. i know what they’re thinking and i know that i could’ve become them as well. and i don’t know how to reach to them. i don’t know what to do about them. i don’t want to see them go, i want to see them change. but part of me doubts that it’s possible.
i have one course of action: i’m not tolerating this at all anymore. trans men helped build the table and im not letting anyone kick them off anymore.
i just hope that, if it is jealousy, they’re able to process it. i have a friend who went through the same thing: she hated men who were happy about being men, because she was not. but, now she loves trans men. she doesn’t just welcome them, she wants them to feel welcomed and happy. maybe that’ll happen to more people. i hope.