Not Just Pretty Words

There are times in life where you will be trying so hard to find an answer to a situation that is disturbing your heart, but the simple fact that is making confused and doubt everything is the answer you need to know the truth.

We often find ourselves in situations where our instinct is proven, and we fail to persevere because we don’t trust enough our gut. 

It is normal to have doubts, but it is not normal to not trust yourself.

With time, I’ve learned that self love goes beyond just accepting yourself, it is actually about trusting yourself and that will guide you to accept yourself. 

So, when you doubt yourself, remember that you have someone to trust and that should always be yourself. If you can’t decide on something, take 10 minutes away from everything and meditate in the best decision to make. You will make the best decision according to what you feel it’s best, so you should never have regrets when you made a decision and realized you could have done better. 

You will always have the chance to do better, but you will never know if you don’t try and trust your gut. 

Even when people are trying to confuse you so you change your opinion, remain strong and believe that your thoughts and feelings on the situation are correct. But, don’t forget to be humble and accept your mistakes. This is all about accepting, but more about trusting yourself when you know that you are taking the best decision for yourself and the rest of the people involved. 

Whenever you feel lost, think that it is just a test to measure your curiosity and your hunger for happiness. 

Don’t let your opportunity to find your place pass you by just because of doubt and confusion. 

This is a common practice in all of us. We tend to create a judgement first, than asking for an explanation for a behavior that may disturb our peace or even a relationship with someone. 

So, what to do?

It is as easy as going to the person and being direct. But, it is no as easy as it looks, if so all of us would be doing that instead of going to the person and ask what happened. 

We would rather stay with the prejudice of the situation and create our own statements and ignore the truth of the entire situation.

It requires courage to stand up and crave the truth. It goes beyond just knowing the truth, it is about doing the right thing. It is about defeating pride and an being brave. 

So, next time you are in a situation where the truth is just half expressed and it leaves you wondering and making your own assumptions, take the first step and ask what is going on. 

If the other person doesn’t open up, then cut it there and be at peace that you created the opportunity to express feelings and tell the truth. Move on, and stay always as the person that wants the truth instead of creating false arguments by your own. 

We are surrounded by people; there are strangers that we see pass by and there are our friends, family and loved ones that matter because they have already a place in our hearts. 

But, what would happen if one of them decides to become a stranger one day? Would it go back to not matter, just the way strangers pass by?

It’s hard to allow people into our lives, because we tend to lack trust when it comes to open ourselves to another person. So, when that happens we tend to care too much and love too much, and that sometimes is a threat because we either cannot give love and attention or we just completely forgot in how to do it after getting hurt. 

Really, people won’t matter until we allow them to matter. People won’t have the place they want in our lives if we don’t allow it. People will keep their distance just as we allow it. 

Allowing is a decision we make every day with everything just like it is with people. We allow ourselves to welcome strangers into our lives and make them friends or loved ones. We allow ourselves to disregard people that were in our lives to hit refresh and forget about bad things. But the most important, we allow ourselves to trust the ones that we know will matter not just for one day but for a long time. 

We like forever and always, so why would we put ourselves in positions where we allow people to enter our lives just to say goodbye a few days later?

Who are you? 👀...

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When I understand the power that is within me, I am capable to do unimaginable things.

When I believe in the power within me, I dream bigger and achieve bigger.

When I believe in the power within me, I stop being selfish and jealous of others.

When I believe in the power within me, I am able to forgive because I acknowledge mercy for others.

When I believe in the power within me, I can overcome any obstacle or any hardship I am going through.

When I believe in the power within me, I know that my strength is bigger than anything trying to harm me.

When I believe in the power within me, I am only motivated through love.

When you are weak, you become stronger. You are defeating pride and you are winning with humbleness.

Sometimes the situations we find ourselves in aren’t going to be the most appealing, but it is in ourselves to make the situation helpful for our own growth. 

You will lose people and things in the process of healing a bad situation. The most crucial to not get lost is YOU. Even when your thoughts are cloudy and you seem to not have an answer, wait around and give it time and just like that you’ll know why you’ve been put in those situations. 

Remember that the process isn’t going to be all sunny, you will have doubts and the light can vanish sometimes. But, everything will be okay and if you forget about this just look up and remember that even the sky isn’t blue all the time.

You are human.

You make mistakes.

But, you need to recognize when you have failed.

Sometimes you’ll fail in your job, in your house, in your romantic life, in your friendships and even you’ll fail to yourself.

The value of a mistake is taken when you can be honest and direct, so you can confront yourself knowing you were incorrect.

Be humble, accept that you were wrong.

It is better to fail with honesty than ignoring you were wrong and showing pride as all you got.

I am willing to do whatever it takes to be who I am, even when it goes against the wave. At the end, the most important things are my peace and my values. I need to keep them safe, so I am able to identify the factors that make me unlike myself.