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please share this if you have the same feeling or made an experience like that yourself

He and his first wife divorced after… well she said it better than I ever could.

“I excused a lot of his failings and whims because I loved him. But one day he did something to me that I couldn’t forgive. I was singing that evening at the cabaret. I left him home and he told me: “I invited a few friends; we’ll dine while we wait for you.” And it just so happened I had received a new dress from Paris. That evening, after work, I arrived home and what do I see? All these gentlemen dressed as women. And Conrad had put on my Paris dress. At this point, I divorced!”

And as  Anita Loos put it

don’t do that. go to the grocery store and order one of those deli party platters. the ones with like, four different kinds each of meats and cheeses, maybe some sides, and veggies, and bread, and condiments. get the vegetarian version if you know they’re vegetarians. whatever. you know better than i how many people are gonna be eating it, but guess maybe, like, four day’s worth of food.

because, here’s the thing. cards and flowers are very nice, and remind you that you’re in people’s thoughts. but you know what you just. don’t even want to think about when someone dies? making dinner. going to the grocery store. ordering takeout. whatever. you don’t want to have to think about food. you just want to eat in between planning a funeral and working through your grief.

without getting too into it, when my grandma died, we were thrown for a loop. and we ate nothing but what was on that goddamned deli platter for days. because it was quick and easy and fresh and tasted good and we didn’t have to think about food. and ten years later, i don’t remember those cards or flowers, but i sure as hell remember the deli platter.

Happy pride I’m Cerise, a disabled black nonbinary/lgbt person currently stuck in an abusive living situation and need financial help to cover my basic immediate needs such as my medications, food & rent, and transport to my appointments. I’ve estimated that I need about $680 to cover my needs for a month, and until I’m in a stable situation, I’m going to need as much help as I can get. Without getting too into details I’m currently completely dependent on an abusive parent who’s now giving me grief over having to financially support me plus I’m at risk for racial abuse and harassment living in rural Tennessee. Any help I can get would be greatly appreciated at this point. Have a great pride

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