Little Lifter

first of all, i understand the “beginner” excitement. 

it like suddenly you walk into a store & you think “i can have this. i like this and i CAN have this. right now. no saving up. no waiting for sales. no finding dupes. it can be mine right now“ it’s a feeling that someone who hasn’t grown with money (why would someone who has the money shoplift?) has NEVER felt before. 

BUT you mentioned you have been lifting for ONE week & your total is already in a few hundreds. that’s what you should get to in your first YEAR, if you’re lucky.

why? it’s not that i dont want you to have nice things. it’s because you know NOTHING about lifting yet.  you could have read every single post in this community top to bottom but it won’t actually make you a good lifter. at all. 

imagine this: if you read books on painting scenery, can you suddenly make the most breathtaking lanscape? hell no. it’s gonna be horrible, even if you read/researched everything about it. with TIME & practice you get better at it. those books will guide you & make you have a better understanding of what/how to do so you can learn much faster, but they won’t teach you how to paint. they can’t. 

when you begin, no matter how good you want it to turn out, or how much you know how it should turn out, you will make mistakes that will make you cringe in a year & wonder how the fuck you weren’t caught/arrested (IF YOU WEREN’T. IF) 

what i am trying to say: slow down. slow down right now. you are new, you have literally just begun. you should still be doing pens & gum & chapstick.  it’s a crime. think of the possible effects. 

if even thinking about  getting caught makes you scared, think about it actually happening. 

think about losing your caregivers/parents trust for years. 

thinking about paying 200€ for a 15€ necklace. 

think about being in court because of it. 

the mere fact that you have been lifting for a week & already begin to feel “addicted” is by itself the indication of a huge problem. think about this. stop & think on this implication. 

 please, for yourself, please i am begging you, slow down, go smaller, don’t even think of doing hauls yet

this is not the same advice i would give to someone who has been lifting for years on how to deal with this, but i feel like this is the advice that can help you.

also, i want to add, these posts you see here- the big hauls, most of these people are not minors. most have been doing it for years. most have been caught several times. some are even faking it.

I’m not talking about, needing new shoes, socks, jackets or food. Essentials are essentials.

I’m talking about some makeup palettes or blushes or just something that I grabbed, because I could. None of that has made me genuinely feel better about myself. It helps but the hole is still there.

I’m glad I learned this at a young age, people around me are spending $$$ on expensive car payments or the newest bag, because they think it will make them happy.

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