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ⓘ Tip If you feel unfulfilled by how you spent your time today, you can stay up late to try to combat the sense of dissatisfaction. This will ensure that you feel even worse tomorrow.

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SCARED

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funstyle

Im always like "i will not add my two cents. i will not add my two cents" but i cant lie the pennies are getting sweaty in my hand

tpwrtrmnky

Like. Look. Listen. I have taught introductory quantum physics at a university level, and I need you all to incorporate this into your trans advocacy: There are situations where you need to make a decision to prioritize being comprehensible to your target audience above being The Most Unassailably Correct.

peppermintquartz

You can try to teach a toddler about germ theory or you can get them to wash their hands because "yucky"

tpwrtrmnky

Teaching a toddler to wash hands because yucky when the Ethics Understander crashes through the roof. "STOP RIGHT THERE," the Ethics Understander shouts at me. "The disgust response is not a legitimate substitute for a considered value judgment, and in fact, weaponizing disgust instead of grounding those judgments in a more rigorous framework is fundamental to reactionary rhetoric!"

The toddler looks at me. "You are a fascist, auntie. I have seen the light and will now go eat chewing gum from the pavement, unless you can educate me on a rigorous framework on the microbiology of pavement chewing gum this very instant."

tpwrtrmnky

This is a hyperbolic example but here's a more real one:

You are trying to explain the trajectory of research on trans issues, and how the informed consent model came about as a wildly successful alternative to the gatekeeping model because time and again, people with clinical experience who actually cared about their patients found that just letting trans people transition was easier and the fear that it would lead to something bad was unfounded.

The Principle Understander is shouting at you that the medicalization of trans people is inherently unjust, and even the informed consent provider is still a gatekeeper, just a more lenient one.

You are already aware of this.

You are talking to someone who, as a first priority, needs to know what the worse gatekeeping model looks like.

The person you're talking to is asking "but isn't it good to give patients more time to think before making irreversible changes?" because they didn't hear the part where you explained that asking patients about their masturbation habits has nothing to do with anyone's safety. They missed it because the Principle Understander was on a tangent about the necessity of abolishing capitalism because paying for medication is bad, which again, yes but this is really not the time or place for that.

wyf-of-bathe

This has the funniest name btw.

jewishtransdyke

There's an Emily Dickinson poem about this:

Tell all the truth but tell it slant— Success in Circuit lies Too bright for our infirm Delight The Truth's superb surprise As Lightning to the Children eased With explanation kind The Truth must dazzle gradually Or every man be blind—

prismatic-bell

This can also be understood as "speaking their language" or "meeting them where they are." And not to sound like I'm shitposting, but you want to know one of the best examples of this that's ever been posted on tumblr.com?

"What the fuck do you think freedom MEANS, Earl?"

Earl could have gotten an earful about gendered clothing colors being a social construct or how the queer community has its own clothing subculture, and he wouldn't have heard or internalized a word of it. But for the kind of redneck who goes to tractor-pulls? Yeah, "what the fuck do you think freedom means" really only touches the most superficial layer of Mister Pink John Deere Hat, but Earl heard that. And maybe next time he sees a guy dressed like Daisy Duke chilling at a tractor-pull he'll remember it and think "isn't it great to live in a free country" and mind his business. Maybe he'll even ask where the guy got his pink hat and learn something more.

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jadwigaspeaks

Every so often I still see discourse about which demographics are "really queer" so just to clarify. In our society there is a pervasive expectation that everyone will:

Fall into one of 2 (out of many) sexual variations from birth

Identify as the gender associated with whichever of the 2 variations you're in

Conform with the norms and traditional expressions for that gender

Experience sexual and romantic attraction, exclusively towards the opposite gender

Enter into de jure monogamous relationships with partners you feel sexual and romantic attraction towards

Deviation from this list is frequently punished with social stigma, bigotry, denial of certain legal rights or protections, and often violation of bodily autonomy

If you are someone who deviates from this list in some way, you are one of us and there should be a place for you in the queer community. Up to you if you actually want to take that place, but if you choose to do so, none of us should be making you feel unwelcome for being "not really queer"

sandersstudies

Sick list of symptoms bro. Now try humanizing your behavior instead of pathologizing it.

sandersstudies

Pathologizing: Hey sorry I yelled at you. I have this ADHD symptom called RSD that makes me really sensitive.

Humanizing: Hey, I’m sorry that I blew up like that earlier. In the moment I felt really attacked and overwhelmed and I reacted badly, but I know you didn’t mean to offend me with what you said, so that behavior is on me.

queer-asinfuckyou

Because I just saw a post bitching about this one, I want to add: this post is saying that you need to take accountability for the way you hurt other people, even if it happens because of a symptom of your disability/illness. It's also saying that using terms (especially acronyms) that aren't common knowledge isn't a helpful way to explain yourself. It is NOT saying that you need to let people walk all over you because "your disability isn't an excuse."

If you're diabetic, you don't have to eat the honey glazed ham that will send you into a coma (their example). But you also can't yell at the person offering it and accuse them of trying to kill you. You can just say "thanks, but my body can't handle that kind of sugar intake, so I'll pass"

ayin-me-yesh

If you run over someone's foot with your wheelchair you still apologise

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louisegluckpdf

they won't tell you this in therapy but sometimes the best way to stop catastrophizing/anxiety is to interrupt your spiraling with "girl what the hell are you talking about"

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It's not a cure but you have no idea how many times this image has helped me with my OCD

notgreatthanks

This tag has been more effective than any meds I’ve ever taken

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This tag has been more

effective than any meds

I’ve ever taken

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

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THE BOY, THE MOLE, THE FOX AND THE HORSE. (2022), dir. Charlie Mackesy & Peter Baynton

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Happy pride demon!

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formerglory25

reblog if you too are bi and confused or support others’ right to be bi and confused

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Monsieur le Flouf keychain (limited edition) 🐾🤍

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khaire-traveler

Thank you, Chasm Frog.

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[guy who has been holding an insane amount of tension in his body for a week straight] bro why do I feel so awful

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