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Y/n and S/I are commonly terms to refer to the reader. S/I means “self insert”, what your sona or oc is, while Y/N refers to “your name.”

When shippings it’s also important to know what sharing statuses are. Sharing statuses are often people’s boundaries and how they feel of meeting of other people sharing the same f/o. 

When a person shares an f/o with somebody else, they’re referred to as “double.” 

There’s many different sharing statuses, especially when more people join the community but some common ones and their definitions are:

Sharing: these are people who don’t mind doubles interact 

Selective sharing: people who often pick and choose what doubles can interact with them. It’s often based on vibes or their feelings towards the double

Nonsharing: people who do not want doubles interacting with them in any way. They often block them out of personal boundaries

Hypersharing: these are people who actively seek out doubles to interact with. They enjoy it when they find others who share their f/os

Mirror-sharing: these are people who often mimick the doubles sharing status when interacting. If the double is nonsharing; they’re nonsharing. If the double is sharing: they’re now sharing too. 

I think there’s more minor or micro terms, but those are the most common ones you’ll see in the community. It is commonly expected for people to make an f/o list, where you list all your selfships and what your status and sharing terms you are with them.

In general I would highly recommend checking people’s bios and intros before interacting or reblogging to make sure you aren’t crossing anybody’s boundaries.

A major thing in the tumblr side of yume/selfshipping community is f/o or selfship imagines. Theirs some on TikTok too if interested, they’re commonly more trend or audio related with aesthetic backgrounds. These are often reader and f/o inserts, they’re purposely vague so you can imagine your f/o and you in that situation. Some imagines might fit your f/os image more, which you can reblog and leave your ship name in the posts tags to imagine on later. Most of these are often fluff, but can be angsty or nonserious. 

There’s Selfship reblog games that often explain their gimmick in the same post. Commonly, the post explain the rules or theme, people reblog that post with a photo (and occasionally a description) of their f/o, and the op will reblog what they’ve assigned what they think f/os object is. Other times it’s free fanart and practice for the ops skills. Make sure to check if there’s anywhere saying “Open” or “Closed” to see if your request will still be taken. 

Similar to Selfship reblog games, there’s ask games! Op will create a post listing questions about people’s selfships or their experiences, and either number them, or assign that question an emoji. Anybody who reblogs it can be asked those questions in their inbox. Reblog Karma is often mentioned in these posts. It’s when you send a question to either the op, or the person you’re reblogging it from before you join in yourself. 

Fictoromantic and fictosexual are both terms and labels in the selfshipping community. Fictoromantic means that a person feels more romantic attraction to fictional characters than real people, while fictosexual is when a person feels more sexual attraction towards fictional characters than real people. Both are a spectrum and can vary. It’s also attached to aro and ace spectrums, many people who are aro/ace use it as a micro label, while others don’t. 

I haven’t done too much research on this yet, but there is a thing called “soul bounding.” It’s when you’re incredibly dedicated to a f/o that you’re able to get responses from them in your mind, or what I’ve come to understand. It’s optional and not required, but it is common within more devoted selfshippers and is something to be aware of. There is resources or wikis if you want to figure more out. My explanation probably doesn’t cover it as much, it’s better to talk to an actual soul bounder about it. 

Like any other fandom community, there are proshippers. In this community of what counts as a proshipper, it’s often people who use the label, adults who Selfship with children, somebody who romantically selfships with the same f/o they view as familial, people who purposely make their relationship abusive on either side, or minors who Selfship with adults/don’t age their personas up and make their f/o purposely seem like a predator. They use similar tags as “#proship please interact” but also include “#proship Selfship” or “proship yumeship” and other terms. You’re able to block these tags and put dnis on posts if you want to avoid topics like those. I know they can easily be unsettling to some people (like me)