remember to cry for help without guilt-tripping. i know it feels like youāve been abandoned and betrayed, but itās probably not true, and itās not okay to accuse the people around you of something they might not have done.
āi guess none of you like meā could be better phrased asĀ āi feel unloved right nowā
ābut nobody cares anywayā could be better phrased asĀ āi feel insignificant and i need reassuranceā
rather than assuming othersā feelings, give them time to explain them. youāll usually get a much better answer.
This is really important for future predictions, too.Ā āYouāre eventually going to leave meā is impossible for someone else to disprove without just sticking around forever, but no one wants to stick around when theyāre being constantly accused of future abandonment. Giving someone no choice but to either stay with you forever in order to prove you wrong or leave you and prove you right is incredibly emotionally manipulative, whether you mean it to be or not.
āI get scared sometimes because Iām afraid of being alone againā is easier to address and doesnāt leave your partner(s)/friend(s) feeling as though theyāre being preemptively accused of something.Ā Ā
