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So, as an asexual person myself, I’ve decided to give some reminders for all you lovely ace people.

You are valid

You are real

You are a part of the LGBT community

You can have a fulfilling relationship without sex

If you feel like you aren’t fulfilling your partner because you don’t have sex, you are wrong, your partner would not be with you if they didn’t feel fulfilled

Although, if your partner claims they aren’t fulfilled because you aren’t having sex with them, dump their ass and find someone who respects you

You can be ace no matter your age, gender, race, etc.

IT’S OKAY TO BE ACE AND LIKE SEX

IT’S OKAY TO BE ACE AND LIKE SEX

IT’S OKAY TO BE ACE AND LIKE SEX

You do not have to be aromantic to be ace (I’m a biromantic ace myself)

However, aro-ace people are just as valid

You are not obligated to explain the nuances of your asexuality to anyone unless you’re planning to have sex with them

TW - SEXUAL ASSAULT

Having been assaulted is not always why you’re asexual, but sometimes, having been assaulted is why you’re asexual. Both are valid. (change made here because what I wrote earlier wasn’t phrased well)

TW OVER

You are not “broken”

You are not a “prude”

Demisexuals, Greysexuals, Cupiosexuals, and anyone else on the ace spectrum are also valid

But, most of all

You are loved

🏳️‍🌈 MY PRIDE LIST IS COMPLETE! 🏳️‍🌈

i am so happy i managed to get it all done, thank you guys for your suggestions and words of encouragment, and yay to the creators for their canonically queer characters!

you can view the separate arts by browsing this tag, or on my twitter!

and if you wanna support a queer artist and view all of these in their bigger, original size, you can buy them on gumroad!

Harry: let’s name him Albus Severus

specifically about the timeline

so, our Pearl clearly recognises Spinel, that’s very much established

so, it’s safe to say, that Pink Diamond must have lost Pink Pearl prior to leaving Spinel in the garden for our Pearl to have known who she was

we know from Change Your Mind that White Diamond took Pink Pearl away because Pink continued ‘misbehaving’ despite being told not to (and being high key abused)

so when it came to Spinel, Pink had already lost one Gem she loved as a direct result of her ‘childishness’, something Spinel fundamentally represented

i think Pink not only wanted to stop associating herself with Spinel to prove to the Diamonds that she could be responsible, but also to protect Spinel from them; take the flashback scene

here, Spinel acts as bouncy and immature as she’d designed to do, and Pink visibly enjoys it, only becoming more and more worried as time goes on, which im going to assume is over a long enough period of time for her to have had Pink Pearl replaced

when the Diamonds tell her she’s finally getting a colony, she looks at Spinel’s antics with anger, but that anger lasts only a moment before being replaced by an expression i’d say is more grateful than pitiful

Pink is very aware of what the Diamonds do to Gems that don’t act appropriately, and she’s worried Spinel will be punished like Pink Pearl was, so she leaves her somewhere she knows is safe, thinking short term

if Spinel was out of the way, not in the firing line, then she couldn’t be taken away and wiped clean like her Pearl— she could exist outside of Diamond influence

as mentioned by @artemispanthar, Pink Diamond never really understood how loved she was, even after she’d started a war and thousands of her people, such as Jasper, mourned her and fought for her

she never thought Spinel, bouncy, hyperactive, endlessly loyal little Spinel, would stay in the Garden forever waiting, but she did think Spinel would be happy existing there alone and safe, which was her mistake

until Greg, Rose didn’t truly understand what love was

Pearl loved her, but it was tainted by their history of servitude and adoration 

the Diamonds loved her, in some type of way, but neither party really knew how to form a healthy dynamic with one another as they couldn’t communicate properly

and Spinel loved her, but Pink assumed it was childish nonsense 

while im not excusing Pink Diamond’s actions, a lot of her choices came from what she thought would best protect those she cared about as well as fuel an arguably selfish desire to live freely and do as she wanted– starting a new life on Earth away from a toxic regime, having a human heir, even generating her shield could be a visual metaphor for this need for protection 

she acted from the position of someone who’d experienced abuse, and who knew that her choices would negatively impact others while she existed within that cycle of abuse and her solution, to start an intergalactic war and literally kill her past self, wasn’t the greatest or the smartest, but she was acting desperately to free herself from the threat of pain

Some days hit you like a ton of bricks, and for those who already struggle, those days can be even harder. Hopefully, these little tips can give you a boost in your darkest moments.

1. Open a window, let some light and fresh air in. You might not want it now, but it will help you feel better in the long run.

2. Take a shower. Sometimes, this can be more difficult than we expect, but that’s okay. Just letting the water hit your back, or washing your face can make you feel more refreshed.

3. Work on a hobby that gets you going. Unfortunately, as good as it feels in the moment, lying in bed and watching netflix while the work you have piles up will only make you feel worse. Now, maybe you can’t tackle your assignments right now, but sitting up and drawing your favourite character or watering your plants while blasting some music will get you in a better mindset.

4. Change your music. Sometimes we need to listen to a sad ass song and just get all our emotions out, but once that’s done and dusted, don’t dwell. Listen to some up-beat music (if I may, I recommend our Pick Me Up Playlist by You) and try to keep your environment from matching your mood.

5. Get a healthy snack and drink some water. Never underestimate the power of good nutrition. If you can’t handle the thought of a full meal, some fruit will suffice for now. But remember what you eat fuels your body, so if you can bring yourself to fitting in a remotely well-balanced meal, you’ll be all the better off.

6. Make a list, pick one, simple task, and get it done. Maybe you have laundry to do and it’s piling up. Maybe you have to wash down the kitchen counter. Maybe you have a worksheet for school. Maybe it’s just making the list. Whatever you need to get done, write it down, and rather than letting that overwhelm you, pick one thing from that list to tick off. Slowly but surely, you will be able to tackle the bigger things.

7. Go for a walk. Getting some fresh air and simple exercise will refresh you without tiring you out. Bring some water, or maybe make it a trip to get some of your favourite snacks and a smoothie from Jamba Juice. If you’re struggling to get up and out, having something nice to look forward too can motivate you. 

8. Think of why you’re feeling this way, and then let it go. More often than not, there is a reason you’re struggling to get up and out. Understanding the root of this feeling can help you move past it, tackle it, or keep it from holding you back.

People seemed to like my bi/pan post so I decided to make a similar thing for asexuality! Please know that this is based on my own experiences within the community and I can’t speak for all aces. However I hope this can be a good starter for people to understand. A lot of ace stuff on here is heated arguments and I wanted to get away from that and provide a resource so people can learn without having to wade through the Discourse.

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Please note, I intentionally did not include anything about the “is ace queer” debate because it warrants a whole separate post and I want this to be accessible to anybody willing to learn, despite my personal feelings on that topic. Please do not bring your ace/queer debate onto this post, it is not the place. Thank you!!

Also for my last graphic, people re-posted to other social media and translated it into different languages and I’m totally fine w that! I would love if you keep the bottom credit and let me know if you do this. 😊

Plain text under the cut.

So, last November, I was driving to Denver with my sister, when she told me she identified as Asexual and felt that I should know.  I think she was expecting me to ask a bunch of weird questions because she literally pulled out notes, but I got to be “Nah, it’s all good and I’m glad you feel safe enough to some out.” and since there wasn’t much more to say, we went back to swearing at the shitty drivers on I-25.

Two exits later, it occurred to me that I hadn’t actually seen my sister for a year prior and might have forgotten to come out to her when I was doing it last March.  “Just to be clear- you know I’m Bi, right?”

“OH MY GOD.” she howls, making me almost plow into a pickup in surprise.  “YOU’RE EITHER AND I’M NEITHER.”  

I had to pull over I started laughing to hard.

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Sister has found herself an Ace Girlfriend and we’re all thrilled for her.

In the interest on Gender Inclusiveness we’ve decided to to change the banner to “All Or Nothing”

Mom went to FoCo pride this year with Bi/Pan/Ace/Queer swag and pamphlets and she had crying teenagers hug her because they were so fucking happy to have someone in their corner.  So we’re doing it again next year, but with like, 500% more stuff because it ran out FAST.

Guys. Metal. You want some really good music that isn’t about sex or “love”? Here are my recommendations.

Amon Amarth: A melodic death metal band revolving around Vikings and Norse mythology. Recommended songs: Deciever of the Gods, Twilight of the Thunder God, The Way of Vikings, Guardians of Asgard

Judas Priest: They have like three love songs I know of. And one is mostly about being goth, so… yeah. They’re Judas fucking Priest, dude. Recommended songs: Ram It Down, The Sentinel, the ENTIRETY of the album Painkiller.

Candlemass: Do you like spooky things? Are you a goth? THEN CANDLEMASS IS A BAND FOR YOU. This is Black Sabbath with the goth factor cranked up to eleven. Recommended songs: The Bleeding Baroness, Solitude, Witches, Assassin of Light, Mourner’s Lament, Bewitched

Metallica: The archetypal thrash metal band. Their first four albums are amazing, the fifth started to slip. Don’t listen to Load or anything beyond. I… don’t think they have a single love song on any of these albums. Recommended songs: Master of Puppets, Of Wolf and Man, Ride the Lightning, Trapped Under Ice

Blind Guardian: Do you like fantasy? Listen to Blind Guardian. Seriously. Recommended songs: Mirror Mirror, Lionheart, A Voice In the Dark

Alestorm: Ahoy! Are ye the type to chase a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT kind o BOOTY? Then get ye some Alestorm, matey! They sing about PIRATES! Recommended songs: Fucked With an Anchor (it’s about a guy who is cursed with swearing in nonsensical ways. Catchy and HILARIOUS.), You Are a Pirate (Yes, a metal cover of THAT You Are a Pirate. Absolutely glorious.)

Because of PrideMonth, I wanted to share the asexuality and aromanticity spectrum with everyone.

I know this blog is a genderblog, but I feel like there isn’t enough representation for asexual and aromantic people during PrideMonth. So, I made a list of all of the asexual and aromantic identities to let everyone know how big this part of the LGBTQ+ community actually is. You heard it, people on the asexuality and aromanticity spectrum are LGBTQ+.

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Asexual: Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity.

Aromantic: An aromantic is a person who experiences little or no romantic attraction to others.

Demisexual: A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone.

Demiromantic: A demiromantic is a type of grey-romantic who only experiences romantic attraction after developing an emotional connection beforehand.

Greysexual: Someone who experiences occasional and/or mild sexual attraction.

Greyromantic: Someone who experiences occasional and/or mild romantic attraction.

Cupiosexual and cupioromantic: Cupiosexual is a subset of asexual. It is used to describe asexuals (people who never experience sexual attraction) who still desire a sexual relationship. Cupioromantic is a subset of aromantic.

Lithsexual: Akoisexual (also called akoinesexual and lithsexual) refers to a person who experiences sexual attraction, but has their feelings fade if reciprocated.

Lithromantic: Lithromantic (also known as akoiromantic or apromantic) is a romantic orientation on the asexual spectrum. Somebody who is lithromantic can feel romantic attraction towards others and also enjoy being in romantic relationships but only in theory. They do not need the affection to be reciprocated, and as such do not usually feel compelled to seek out a relationship with someone they are interested in.

Fraysexual and frayromantic: Fraysexual (and also frayromantic; also called reverse-demisexual/romantic) people feel attraction only initially upon meeting or seeing someone. These feelings weaken or disappear once a bond is formed.