tips for people who have loved ones or partners that hallucinate or see/ hear things
(This is coming from an alter who has been dating another alter in our system with bad hallucinations and works himself up into a panic over small noises that aren’t real, btw)
Saying things 3 times. For some reason, three is very calming. Example being saying “baby, baby, baby”, groups of threes.
get them somewhere they feel safe. For mine, that’s a fucking cubby under a table with blankets.
music might help? But maybe sure it’s music that will calm them down and not make it worse. Unless they’ve told you otherwise, I’d take a guess that scary music or eire music or music where there are lyrics about scarier things is not helpful. Sometimes nostalgic music can help?
doing whatever to make sure they feel safe. I mean, fuck, tonight that literally meant letting my bf keep a knife with him while he slept. That meant (with my supervision) letting him have a cutting knife with him because he felt safer. He promised me he wouldn’t hurt himself, and I trust him.
kisses, hugs, and physical reassurance may also help.
dont stop talking, is one thing I’ve learned. The more you talk the less they can think and listen. And if they’re not listening or seeing or thinking, they can’t scare themself worse. They have some obsession with a game/book/movie/ wtv? Talk abt it. Ask them questions. They’re learning a new language/ speak a language you don’t? Translate random sentences on google and try to pronounce it. If they’re laugh, you get bonus points, my friend.
this one should be obvious, but if they start stimming or trying to self-soothe…. Let them? Just putting it out there.
these are things that personally work for me and my bf, but many I think could help a lot of people who are newer into their relationships/ aren’t really sure what to do if they need to help get someone out of it.