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Firstly, cats stim. They purr, swish their tails and knead their paws against pillows, blankets, and other soft things. Many cats actively seek out sensory experiences, like listening to birds singing, lying in a sunbeam, rolling against the grass, etc.

Cats have sensory sensitivities— many of them dislike walking on certain flooring, touching certain textures, and certain smells or sounds may make them anxious. Their fur is very sensitive, they can sense the lightest touch, or speck of lint, or dust and their skin will quiver until they can lick or rub it off. When they become overstimulated cats retreat into a small, dark place to recover.

Cats love routine. Many cats know the exact time that their owners wake up in the morning and will wake them. A cat with a routine is a happy cat— they love to have their meals or soft food on a schedule and will learn their owner’s schedule. Cats will become anxious when the schedule is disrupted or if their owner doesn’t follow their usual routine.

In the same vein cats are very wary and/or anxious when it comes to the introduction of new things or people into their environment. Cats require time and patience to get used to anything or anyone newly introduced. Cats also feel anxious when existing furniture is rearranged or when a new smell (like an air freshener) is introduced into the home.

Cats often have “special interests”, a particular activity or thing that they love and can spend hours enjoying. It could be playing with a particular toy, chewing on something, listening to the radio, or watching the clothes in the washing machine. My cat Kitty has a certain ball that she fixates on and will happily enjoy and obsess over for hours.

Finally, cats have a very distinct and subtle body language. The difference is particularly evident when compared with the exuberant, unsubtle dog. The slightest twitch of a tail or turn of the ears, the frequency and timing of blinks, and the positioning of the tail in relation to the body are all little movements that can express much. To the untrained eye it may appear as if a cat is bored, aloof, or unaware of its surroundings. But once you learn to recognize cat body language and understand cat communication, you’ll be amazed at the depth of emotion and how expressive your cat really is.

I’m getting really sick and tired of this flakey-fake, so-called ‘inclusive’ bullsh*t coming from every corner of the LGBTQIA community, and beyond. I don’t mean the people who DO reach out, who educate, who point you in the right direction, and who actually welcome new people to their community.

I mean kind of people who preach about being accepting, welcoming, and inclusive, but who immediately turn into vapid a**holes the second someone else comes along who isn’t ’______’ the same way they are.

I guess they just forget that everyone actually, seriously is different, and that it’s OKAY to have differences within a community of people??

Because, seriously, look: people can have similar or shared experiences, but everyone experiences them differently. You might like the same something, but the way you like it or why you like it can be different. You might dislike the same something as someone else, but for an entirely different and/or personal reason. You might have a completely different reason for everything you do/say/like, which—weird!—is kind of what happens when people have different personalities and lives.

The major reason I think that it’s important for people to remember these things is because I keep seeing these people—often the younger and/or newer people to the communities—looking for a group/identity/sexuality/faith to belong to and feeling like they can’t be a part of it because there’s a bunch of people calling them ‘fake’ or ‘liars’ because they don’t experience something the exact same way they do.

Can I just ask: What the f*ck?

I mean, just as an example:

A gay guy can like all the men, like woo baby wow yes. A gay guy can like only transmen, hot damn they connect better than anyone else they’ve tried to date. An asexual person can be sex-repulsed for reasons they do not have to explain or share with you. An asexual (or aromantic but still under the Ace umbrella) person can fall in love and adore cuddles and hand-holding.

Are these guys gay? Are those people ace? YES!

Are they the same? Do they experience their sexualities in the exact same way? NO!

Why?

BECAUSE THEY’RE DIFFERENT PEOPLE.

So, please. Please please please please. If you are someone who’s turning people away from a community (that you don’t own btw) because you don’t feel like someone is ’____’ enough, because they don’t express or experience their gender/sexuality/faith/etc the exact same way you do…

Please try to take a moment, think about their circumstances, consider what you know and don’t know, think about what shaped your identity in this community, think about who welcomed you, and try to be that person to them. Help them. Teach them. Include them.

 is Peter Parker x

And I don’t mean like attractive cute, I mean like baby otter cute. What if the stumble upon us and go “ohhhhh my god!!! Oh my god!!!! I’m dying this is- look at it! Look at them!!! Oh my god!!!”

We usually imagine having to come up with some Devils trade or unholy arrangement to get tech and trade with aliens, but the instant they see us the aliens immediately set out into conservation efforts. They’re like “their habitat is becoming harsh and unlivable for them! We have to save them!” And everyone just puts a picture of us next to this information and they all agree “Look at them! We have to save them!!” We become like the panda mascots of intergalactic conservation efforts.

Simultaneously, our main export is just streams, videos, holograms, and photos of us. Aliens lose their composure completely over videos of us sneezing or yawning or eating pop tarts or playing video games or taking care of our kids.

There are lines of aliens who would LOVE to have a human in their home or on their ship. It’s a little condescending (we’re not sure if we’re guests or well treated exotic pets) but still a good opportunity, and any human who wants can go to space at any time basically for free or even for profit, and the aliens will go out of their way to give you anything you ask for.

“You sent my cuddle-fwumpkin WHERE?!? to do WHAT!?!”

“They’re uniquely qualified to explore dangerous territories that are uninhabitable to most lifeforms … ”

“I don’t caaaaaare! Hfjfjfj HD bf!!!”

Like, foreign policy issued specifically for the proper utilization of human laborers. How would human cultures engage differently in these circumstances? Like, in the US would people look down on the humans that hang out with Team Cuddles as looking for alien handouts? Would they be blamed when Team Orc humans don’t get taken seriously on expeditions?

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