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while i do go by they/them, i'm not a walking set of pronouns. i'm a person.

i am trans - but i'm also nonbinary.

"trans" refers to my relationship with my assigned gender at birth. it's not a substitute for my actual gender. if you can call trans men and women trans men and women, you can call me trans nonbinary.

i'm GNC - but more specifically nonbinary.

gender nonconformity either refers to not conforming to the gender roles of your gender, or to broader gender expectations like cisnormativity. neither of them specifically name my gender though, and one of them can't even apply to me. GNC isn't a substitute for my actual gender.

i'm not a thing - i'm nonbinary.

i'm seeing more and more people use the term "thing" as a third option/equivalent to men/women or boy/girl. like "boy...girl...thing...listen to me". i don't think i need to explain why this is bad.

i'm not transmasc or transfem - i'm nonbinary.

of course there are nonbinary people who are transmasc and/or transfem - but my (and many other people's) transness doesn't contain masculinity or femininity. a lot of people use transmasc and transfem as supposedly inclusive shorthands, while also treating them as trans men/women lite anyway. a lot of people will also say "transmascs and transfems" and think it covers all trans people when it's just exclusion dressed up as progressive. if you want to include nonbinary people, there's a nice little word you can use. hint: it starts with n and ends with onbinary.

nonbinary is not a bad word.

too many people are doing everything in their power to avoid saying the word nonbinary.

refusing to say nonbinary is nonbinary erasure.

say nonbinary.

dead or detransitioned.

they were killed by their families. by their partners. by random strangers.

they killed themselves because they weren't treated with respect.

they never got out of the closet because they live in a part of the world where people seen as women don't have any autonomy.

they detransitioned because they had no support, because they were pushed out of community and safe queer spaces.

they're so stealth nobody in their lives knows they're trans, because they get treated with less respect when people know.

and the thing that really gets to me is how quickly people gloss over that part. that erasure is exactly what makes trans men feel like the canaries in the coal mine here: we were the first group she tested that rhetoric on, and the fact that it barely registers in the larger conversation just proves how easy it is to overlook us.

yes, she’s violently transphobic toward trans women, and that absolutely deserves attention. but it’s strange watching everyone act like it started there. it isn’t a competition, but the sequence matters because it shows a pattern.

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happy pride to loveless autistics

happy pride to autistics who don't understand or struggle to identify attraction / love

happy pride to autistics who don't understand sex and sexuality

happy pride to autistics only attracted to fictional characters

happy pride to kinky autistics

happy pride to intersex autistics especially those with intersex conditions that "cause" autism

happy pride to queer autistics infantilized & treated like cannot choose own gender / sexuality labels

happy pride to trans & nonbinary autistics treated as "confused little girls" instead of their chosen gender / sexuality

happy pride to queer autistics treated as scary or sexual predators because of their autism + gender / sexuality

happy pride to trans & nonbinary autistics who are denied gender affirming care because of their autism

happy pride to autistics who don't understand or have concept of gender (either their own or other people's)

happy pride to autigender/autisexual autistics (gender / sexual identity can't separate from autism )

happy pride to xenogender autistics

happy pride to autistics who can't participate in pride parade / pride events due to sensory / accessibility needs

happy pride to autistics who can't come out because their caregivers are not supportive

happy pride to autistics who don't have words in their aac to explain their queerness

happy pride to autistics who struggle with pronouns or labels

happy pride to autistics who can't define their queerness

"If men could have periods, tampons would be free" >>> trans man gets beaten up for requesting sanitary products in bathrooms

"If men got uterine cancer, there would be a cure" >>> trans man killed via medical neglect due to being trans as his doctors wanted to punish him for being transgender and betraying womanhood

"If men were catcalled, it would be considered assault" >>> trans man gets catcalled and then sexually assaulted for ignoring their advances

"If men had to worry about being alone at night, there would be a streetlight every 5 feet" >>> trans man murdered while walking home alone from work

Happy Pride Month!!🌈⭐️❤️

in aotearoa, june isn’t our pride, it’s theirs. martha p johnson and sylvia rivera are their historical figures, not ours. the phrase that “you owe your rights to Black trans women” is true there, but here we owe our rights to (mostly) Māori historical figures. i have the freedoms i do because of the legacy of an entirely different set of people operating in an entirely different context at entirely different times.

But because of american cultural imperialism, most queer people in Aotearoa don’t even know our own queer history. Carmen Rupe, Ngahuia Te Awekotuku, the Dorian Society, Gillian Laundon, Georgina Beyer, and the Wolfenden Association are some of our queer history. We should know their names! we should know what they did for us! but because of the power of the american imperial machine, we don’t.

our national pride month should be july, the month that the Homosexual Law Reform Act passed in 1989. our two largest cities hold their pride festivals in february and march, respectively. american queer history has very little (or nothing, depending on who you ask) to do with our queer history. anecdotally, from my own queries, queer youth in aotearoa know more about american queer history than our own.