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edit: huh i didn't expect this to get more than like 3 reblogs. should i write up how i found/developed/boiled down these reminders?

edit 2: ok here's the process

tbh i would not recommend anyone use this one as i made it specifically for myself, it contains a lot of unexplained references, and i totally discounted a lot of other tips bc they were not super applicable to me while they might be to you.

i would recommend making a fully personalized set of reminders yourself. here's how:

1. think constantly about unmasking, have no idea how to do so because you don't know who you are unmasked, and come across basically no tangible, executable advice on the matter

2. watch this video and this video

3. while you watch them, pause at every item, write it down, and write down your initial thoughts on whether you feel like it applies to you, how so, and whether you feel like it's worth doing something about. the videos covers a lot, which is overwhelming but ultimately a good thing. there's something for everyone but there is also perspective to be gained from the things that don't resonate with you. but i'll let you have those epiphanies urself.

4. write any other things you think of that are not in the videos as you go. anything you think of. even if it feels like bullshit. or embarrassing. or childish. write it down.

5. once you take notes, you will find that many of the video items do not resonate with you. cover them up in some way. but do not discard them.

6. now you have eliminated the chaff and you are left with the wheat. it is likely that many of your wheat items will be basically the same thing phrased in slightly different ways. identify those. start a document. now you will make your own list. write down the items that do not overlap with others. combine the ones that are saying the same thing into one summarized item. add the thoughts of your own from earlier, summarize if needed.

7. forget about this project for several months

8. return to it and review the items you initially discounted. find that your perspective has shifted somewhat over time and one or two of these actually does have merit for you. add them to your list.

9. look at your list. you now need to categorize them somehow. experiment with different groupings of item. see how they seem to fit together. i initially tried situation based: at home/at work/out but didn't feel that many of my items were limited to just one. the categories seen in the graphic ended up working for me. you may find something else that will work for you.

10. [optional] after you have categorized, turn every item into the most succinct phrase that you possibly can. ex. on paper, i had 'kill the imaginary audience: rotate blorbos/stop, where are your hands.' i know exactly what this means. nobody needs to understand it but you.

11. decide how you want to arrange it. could be just notes on a page, could be notes with mini doodles, could be a full graphic. mine went through all those stages.