btw being excessively nonconfrontational is NOT a positive trait. it does not mean u are βtoo niceβ or just too kind to hurt people, it means u have a problem communicating and you need to work on it.
There are people in the notes saying that the alternative reason is that theyβre doing it because of trauma and i gotta say that
1) same. I did have this same problem and reason for doing it.
2) this is not actually an alternate reason. You guys also have a problem communicating and while you can trace exactly WHY you have trouble communicating that doesnβt mean itβs okay to treat everyone like theyβre potentially your former abuser and that you DO still need to work on this.
βThis behavior comes from traumaβ and βThis behavior is harmful to you, to others and to your relationships with othersβ are two truths that can co-exist, and that do co-exist quite frequently.
