Inebriation

If they do ever talk about labor they'll be doing, it's always some ridiculous bullshit like, "I'd be an artist", or "I'd write for the party". Uh huh. So it follows the rest population also gets to choose their jobs too, and luckily most of their dream careers in commieland just so happen to be fun stuff like 'military/police conscript', 'miner with little to no safety regulations', 'sewage treatment plant employee', and 'what is essentially a fucking medieval agrarian serf except worse'. You aren't picking shit, you do what you're told to do.

Chances are you will never be high enough up in the party to bypass things like that. The wealthiest and most powerful members of actual communist societies, are, funny enough, either hardcore capitalists who demonize capitalism, or those already so embedded in party structure that they live the lives of overpowered feudal monarchs, complete with their own concept of divine right. Everybody else is meat for the grinder. There's a reason communist states were big on birthrates (China being an exception due to its already massive population, but even now its pivoted away from that, but it also constantly has to allow more and more free enterprise capitalism because communism is a shit economic system). It wasn't family values. The individual is just a part of the state machine, and like any part, wears out and is no longer useful. They encourage (which is to say, very often force) breeding so you breed your own replacement parts, essentially. Incidentally, funny thing, guess how homosexuality is treated in communist states if you're, once again, not powerful enough to have people ignore it?

Speaking of, family itself is generally considered a bad thing. Family, or even deep personal friendships, religion, or anything that gives you a sense of connection or loyalty to something aside from the state is bad, since it elevates something else above the state. Party loyalty is all that matters, so all other things have to be redefined to support it. If you can't eliminate family, or friends, or faith, or the basic concept of human peer bonding, you mutilate it until you have some hideous simulacrum of it, but with none of its soul or the meaning it provides. It's not freedom, it's malevolent soul crushing tyranny.