i see some folks in the comments claiming they donât got a problem with anyoneâs ship as long as some behaviors are not âromanticizedâ. i get that.
but that âromanticizationâ is still a consequence of purity culture. fans tend to woobify characters or dynamics because they have been taught and trained that theyâre not allowed to interact with these things unless they first transform them into Wholesome digestible products. so for instance, some (i said some) thirsty hoes will turn kylo ren into this âcinnamon rollâ and not acknowledge his shortcomings as a way to cope with the infallible discourse that you must only enjoy Good Things. by turning him into a Romantic Good Guy, they think they solve the problem. they donât, and i would argue that u gotta own your trash/dark ship by acknowledging its pitfalls and maintaining character depth - otherwise, youâre not rly enjoying that dark ship, but rather a falsified white-washed version of it that would promote not just abusive behaviors, but poor critical thinking (and just ummm bad taste? lol iâm a snob)Â
What should be relearned is how to properly enjoy villains and ambiguous dynamics, without rendering them null and void. again, purity culture and Patriarchy encourage a kind of bourgeois morality that is difficult to attain and maintain, because weâre just dumb folks. we suck. we donât always make the best of choices. so, in a skewered attempt to be faithful to empty ethical tenets, we shortchange our fictional characters and turn them into Good Guys, thus appearing to âexcuseâ all their negative traits. and that can give some fandoms a bad name. but the solution isnât to shame them into submission. Telling someone âhey, your ship is abusive, so you shouldnât ship it :)â doesnât do a goddamn thing. Start with âthe way you write/portray that ship simplifies the dynamic hereâ and youâll get more results if you really wanna start a dialogue.Â
ofc, there are some fools who donât wanna have a dialogue, and they will tell you that you can actually make yourself stop liking a thing just because they said it. ignore those fools. and pray to god they donât get into office. because theyâll probably ban any kind of literature that doesnât adhere to 100% organic granola aesthetics.