tired and confused

queer homophobia: all lesbians hate trans women and want them to die

straight homophobia: lesbians should have sex with men if they use dildos

queer homophobia: lesbians should have sex with trans women if they use dildos

straight homophobia: lesbians are sex-crazed deviants

queer homophobia: lesbians are vagina-fetishists

straight homophobia: if you like butch lesbians [masculinity], why wouldn’t you just date a man?

queer homophobia: if you like butch lesbians, why wouldn’t you date a trans woman [who is feminine]?

straight homophobia: lesbians recruit minors to be homosexuals and feminists

queer homophobia: lesbians recruit minors to be homosexuals and radical feminists

straight homophobia: butch lesbians are basically men

Queer Homophobia: How can you be sure you don’t like girldick if you’ve never tried it?

Straight Homophobia: Lesbians need to be fixed through force, rape, coercion, and conversion therapy.

Queer Homophobia: Lesbians need to ~critically analyse~ their ~penis aversion~ through ~exposure therapy~.

Straight Homophobia: Lesbians need to allow room for men in their life and stop prioritising women and being angry, hairy, man-haters.

Queer Homophobia: Lesbians need to accept trans lesbians into their beds or they’re not *real* allies.

Straight Men, as a joke: Hehe lol, I’m basically a lesbian too, eeeeeeeeeey, pussy. High five.

The response to the post I made merely expressing my personal, self-admitted no experience impression of polyamory displays it I think. All I said in that post was "I have no experience so this is just my personal opinion but I think it's possible polyamory can work in individual cases, though most of the ones we see have major issues due to misogyny and bad relationship management skills".

A lot of the responses were totally cool and just expressing their own thoughts. Then I got the impression a lot of people read the sentiment "I think polyamory can work in some cases" and blacked out, because some of the replies were either putting words in my mouth about supporting polygamy (when I literally condemn heterosexual polyamory in the post) or just repeating things I already said. And then I got commenters outright lying about me, telling people I support an abuser and calling me male brainrotted.

Experiences like that have disillusioned me a bit, plus the fact that I've already vented out most of the things I wanted to say when I made this blog. Sorry but I just can't fall into these tightly controlling ideological communities anymore. At some point you're just saying the same opinions you already agree with to the same insular group and you're just running in circles not going anywhere. It creates an environment where if you step out of some invisible line people jump at your throat, and the trans community has taught me I can't do that anymore.

it's always hard to say goodbye 🥀

So many mothers will reject or hate their kids if they make them lose face. I used to think about maternal love as an instinct; a natural, all encompassing and incorruptible force (to the point where I got very offended at that one scene in Persepolis, lol); we have this beatific idea of motherhood a la Virgin Mary in the West, which contributes to this. Since becoming one and befriending mothers as one of them though, I realize that it's not like that, or at least not natural to the extent I thought; it's present in some of us but it's just as likely to not be.

Mothers are people first and mothers second. Even the ones that make being a mum their whole identity can end up having a bad relationship with their children and being unable to adapt to changes in needs, because they can't reconcile those changes with their identity as "good mothers". It doesn't matter how you think about yourself though; if you're a mother, you're a mother. People don't think about fathers as "good dads" in the same way, they are dads and they can be good or bad but it's not the only thing they are or the only thing that matters about them.

Mothers are complex like everyone else; they can be selfish, they can be bad like the rest of mortals and do things that go against their children's interests because it benefits them. Last time I checked, birthing or raising a kid doesn't make you develop a new personality.

I've got a crush on you 💘