The Beautiful Truth

hearing your lover cum for you is the most satisfying sound ever.

In order to make a relationship last, you really have to flow with a person as they change. Give them space. My friend always told me about his grandfather who was with his wife for 60 years before she passed. His grandfather said that through all that time, his wife changed so much it felt like he had been with 8 different people by the end. But he said the secret to making it last was that through all those changes, he never suffocated his wife with his own idea of who he expected her to be. Rather he loved, fully, every new woman she became.

when people say my name im like.   cant believe i exist

You can always start over.  You can go back to school. You can quit your job.  You can change careers.  You can leave a bad relationship.  You can leave an okay relationship.  You can write that novel. You can write that song.  You can learn a new language.  You can learn to play the guitar.  You can get fit.  You can train for that half-marathon.  You can make new friends. You can start a business.  You can learn to cook.  You can kick your addiction.  You can reconnect with old friends.  You can change religions.  You can move to a new city. You can travel.  You can treat your depression.  You can lose weight.  You can learn to sew.  You could get up right now, pack a bag, and get on a bus to a whole new life if you wanted to.  You are never as trapped as you think you are. Change can be difficult, scary, and time-consuming, but it’s always possible. Opportunities can take a long time to appear, but they always show up. Be patient. Work hard. Love yourself. You can do this.

Facts. A stupid bitch. Me.

i love this.

mood

“If you give children a vocabulary that’s large enough and complex enough to express their emotions and their ideas, you give them access to complex feelings and emotions in themselves. So that if you talk to a teenager and all they can say about how they feel is BAD, and they haven’t got, you know, a larger vocabulary for lonely, abused, insecure, frightened…I mean there’s this huge panoply which…I remember when my daughter was just telling me that she just felt bad, I bought her a thesaurus. I said, “Look up, is it sort of over lonely, or is it insecure…and look up under lonely, you’ll find two hundred words for lonely. Which one?” But what that does is that it makes you feel that there’s this huge complexity of emotions and there are words for all of them. If you want children to feel less frustrated and less disenfranchised and less unable to even feel comfortable with their own emotions, you’ll have to give them a vocabulary that’s as complicated as their inner lives. And one of the things we see in children is this incredibly reduced capacity for reporting their inner lives to the exterior world. One of the things is just teaching them poems, just teaching them to memorize poems in school, they don’t have to interpret them, if they just internalize the language of the poem, the complexity of the emotion in the poems…” -Jorie Graham, in a conversation

Me, all day.