Appreciation without Anxiety: Commenting 101
This time last year I was just starting to peek out from lurkerdom. There was a little bit of time cause of holiday breaks and Iād read so much amazing stuff at last yearās erised, but I was so nervous to start commenting. A year later itās way easier and I figure there are some other people out there in the same boat I was in. So, from a fanfic writer and frequent commenter, some thoughts about how to start commenting with minimal fear
1. Before we even get into this, do writers really care about comments? OMG, we care so much. Writing is hard and you donāt know if anyone is going to like what youāre writing. Finding out that you did something right, that you donāt suck, meansĀ everything. Really. There have been moments where Iām stuck on a story and get a comment on an old fic and itās so encouraging and energizing. Your words mean more to us than I can even really describe.
2. But why would they care about my comment? You - yes, you, exactly, precisely you - you, the reader, are who weāre writing for. If youāre reading our stuff, we care. It doesnāt matter if other people have commented. You, as a reader, as you, come to the story with feelings and perspectives that no one else can bring to it. Just by having read our stories, you have something worthwhile and important to say about them, and we truly want to hear you.
3. What the hell do I say? First and most important: anything nice you say will be the right thing. Short of telling us that we suck and our stories are awful, you really canāt go wrong.
4. No, but actually, what do I say? Here are some things you can say. You can use one or two or all of them. You can mix or match. But these are some good tangible ways to start.
You can keep it simple - Great story!ā "Loved it!ā Taking the time to share a few short words still means loads to us.
Say how the story made you feel - āThis brought a smile to my face!ā āI got all choked up!ā āI needed a cold shower!ā āI couldnāt stop laughing!ā Anything like that is fantastic.
Tell us what it was like to read the story - āI was on the edge of my seat,ā āThat was a great twist,ā āthis stayed on my mind all afternoon,ā āI could see this world so clearly,ā āI totally lost track of time.ā Writers can never know what itās like to read our own work - telling us what it was like for you is a huge gift.Ā
Mention moments you liked - ā[Favorite Line Here] - wow, what a great line!ā āI loved when X just threw Y up against a wall and kissed him!ā You donāt have to explain it. Saying what stood out is helpful and exciting and can be an especially easy way to comment - copy, paste, āloved this line!ā and go.
Talk about aspects of the storytelling that stood out to you - Plot development, pacing, dialogue, characterization, the conclusion, chemistry between the characters, secondary characters, how the story related to canon, cool headcanons that were included. I think this can be the hardest type of commenting because some of this stuff is hard to articulate, so maybe this is more like Commenting 102, but if youāre trying to figure out what you liked or want to be more specific in your comment, anything from that list would be a great place to start.
4. But what if I embarrass myself? What if thereās a typo or I comment on the wrong story or just end up flailing incoherently? I think most of us kind of love it when readers are left in a state of incoherent flailing? So donāt sweat that. If youāre worried about commenting on the wrong story, double check that youāre on the right page, then proceed. And if you do comment on the wrong story, delete it. No harm, no foul - really. Weāve all clicked on a wrong tab sometime. If thereās a typo, donāt sweat it. Thereās probably a typo in the story. Thereās probably a typo in this post. Iāve misspelled ātypoā a couple times already. NBD. You left a comment - you are already a winner.
4a. No, really, Iām not sure you get how nervous this makes me. Totally possible. Iāll mention one other thing that helped me (and I was really super nervous): starting with anon fests. The anonymity made it way easier. Maybe I was commenting to one of my all-time faves who would normally leave me totally incoherent, but maybe I was commenting to another n00b just like me. Anon fests are a great way to give it a shot.
5. But what if English isnāt my first language and I accidentally say the wrong thing? First, if youāre reading and commenting in a language thatās not your first language, props. Youāre awesome. Thatās awesome. Second, itās the general sentiment that matters. Iāve gotten comments where the grammar or conjugation is a little off and, really and truly, I am so excited to get the comment that thatās what matters. And knowing English isnāt your first language and you still went to all the effort of reading my story is an unbelievable gift. I will be flattered and amazed by you.
6. But I donāt have a username, what should I do? There are two great things about non-anon comments: (1) we can thank you, (2) Itās super extra exciting to realize someone liked one of your things enough to read another one of your things. So I generally am in favor of having them, and theyāre free and whatnot, but thatās an opinion. If you donāt have one and donāt want one and still want to comment, unless a comm has disallowed anon comments (which if itās done is usually to prevent trolling), go on and comment anonymously. Your words still mean a lot, and we still want to hear them!
7. What if I didnāt like the story? Just donāt comment. Easy.
8. What if I really liked the story but Iām kind of embarrassed that I liked the story? Yeahā¦been there. The storyās great, but itās got a kink you never knew you liked and whoa why do you like it so much? Or itās kind of cracky, or it doesnāt align with your politics or whatever - it happens. And youāre never required to comment. You could also sit on it for a while and come back later if you decide you want to comment or you could comment anonymously. One thing to think about: if commenting feels like putting yourself out there, imagine how it might have felt for the author to hit āpost.ā Being honest about what you like is a way to end up with more of it, and to show support for authors who are willing to take those risks.
9. If I start commenting, do I have to comment on every story? Nah. Itās lovely if you do, but comments are not a requirement. Itās not like entering into a new world of homework. Comment on what you like, on what moves you or excites you, on things you enjoy. Thereās also, at least on AO3, the kudos option, which is still a nice way to give a writer a general thumbs up
10. Thatās all nice or whatever, but why should I spend my time commenting? Arenāt the stories just there for me to read? Wellā¦kind of. The stories are there for you to read whether or not you leave a comment after you read them. But fandom is a community, and fanfic is a labor of love. Reader feedback is really the only thing we have to go on. The most popular on A03 in the whole of my favorite ship has gotten kudos 7% of the time and comments .001% of the time. Repeat: comments .001% of the time. And itās a little hard to know, as a writer, whatās going on there. If a story of mine has been viewed 7500 times and has 320 kudos and 13 comments, does that mean that 7180 people really didnāt like it very much? Are people clicking on it, reading the first paragraph, and deciding itās so bad they have to back-button immediately? I donāt think thatās the case, but without reader feedback, all we know is that you clicked on something. Without knowing that you liked things, or why you liked things, or what things you likedā¦it just gets hard. Harder to feel like the writing is doing what (for a lot of us, anyway) itās meant to do: tell stories that move you, that help you stay in these amazing worlds, that give you (and us!) a way to revisit favorite characters and ideas. Harder to be motivated to write. And then ships and fandoms start shrinking, and no one wants that, right? So, yes, the stories that are already there will be probably there whether or not you comment. But commenting is a way to keep a fandom healthy and thriving. Itās a way to meet people (if thatās a thing you want to do), to encourage writers, and to end up with more fanworks to enjoy. Your comments are the wind in your favorite shipās sails, basically. And that makes commenting one of the absolute best ways to show your fandom love.
11. Okay. This makes sense. Iām ready. How do I start? The next time you read something, click āleave a comment.ā Write some words there. You can use some of the examples above if it helps. Let yourself be nervous if youāre nervous. Try an anon fest if that makes it easier. If you want to try it with someone who is thick-skinned and non-judgy and hard to offend, you can try it with mine (potentially self-serving, I realize, but you already know Iām down for comments and chill about them). And then hit āsubmit.ā And you will have made somebodyās day.