-being allowed to make changes to their appearance
-cutting or styling their hair in ways they couldn’t before
-getting piercings and tattoos (especially if they choose to get tattoos over scars)
-deciding if they want to be touched or not
-choosing who they want in their presence and having this choice respected
-asking for their input frequently and showing that its valued
-showing interest in their hobbies
-having curiosity and empathy about their experiences and the emotional realities of their situation
-validating their feelings, especially if they’ve previously been taught that they aren’t something to be valued
-getting treatment for conditions that they were previously taught were unimportant or something they should have been able to take care of themselves
-advocating for them in front of other people
-being allowed to voice when they’re uncomfortable or upset without being shut down for it
-acknowledging their efforts and skills
-respecting their choices and boundaries