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and that floored people and the psych went onto say that what she meant was that self esteem is a concept that actually includes a vast array of things and labelling them all as one thing is really limiting and prevents actual improvement

you could have real strong pride in the things you create and hate your body

you could hate your creations but also want to share them with people

you could not hate yourself at all but not take care of yourself, engage in reckless self endangerment

thats all bundled under ‘self esteem’ but saying ‘i need better self esteem’ doesn’t mean anything

whereas if you say ‘i need to work on ways to keeping myself safe, refusing to act on destructive urges’ or ‘i want to be in a place where i believe compliments trusted people give me’

thats concrete, thats a goal.

so blind: dead outside

ENFP: Dogs get taller when they sit 

INFP: I wish you could just record silence and then play it on loudspeakers on full blast to make the whole room quiet

ENFJ: Waffles are just pancakes with abs

INFJ: My way of flirting is looking at the person I’m attracted to and hoping they’re braver than I am

ENTP: Every machine is a smoke machine if you use it wrong enough 

INTP: It sucks if you’re smart enough to realize you’re not as smart as you want to be

ENTJ: The first thing you get after obtaining a bachelors degree is a sudden lack of respect for people with bachelors degrees

INTJ: It’s off-putting that ( ) ( ) isn’t a palindrome, yet ( ) ) ( is

ESFJ: Airports should have small movie theaters for layovers. They would make a killing

ISFJ: Who ever started the tradition of the groom not being allowed to be present while the bride shops for the wedding dress should be awarded a nobel peace prize

ESFP: It bothers me so much that there are so many songs I don’t know about that I might like so much

ISFP: If I were a ghost I’d barely haunt anyone. I’d spend my time in nature exploring jungles, caves, and oceans without the fear of dying

ISTJ: I’m a phenomenal secret-keeper because, deep down, I really don’t care about your shit enough to actually talk about it.

ESTJ: People who pee on the toilet seat walk among us every day and we don’t even know who they are

ISTP: Some women want their outfit to be noticed. As a male, I would prefer nobody noticing it so I can still wear it the next day

ISTP

INTP

ESTP

ENTP

ISFP

INFP

ESFP

ENFP

ISTJ

INTJ

ESTJ

ENTJ

ISFJ

INFJ

ESFJ

ENFJ

My interwebz is down so I figured I’d go ahead and post this up. I’m really proud of this. For my Screen Design class, we had to take a fairytale and retell it in however we wanted in storyboard form. I chose the story of Goldilocks and the Three Bears. Just as a heads-up, I’ve replaced the bears with Ursa Major/Ursa Minor, the constellation based on a bear.

I could always tell the story myself, but I figured I should let the art do the talking and only answer questions if you’re curious about it. The only hint I’ll give is to pay attention to the faces of the characters. ;D

Yes, having friends around definitely helped. I wouldn’t have gotten out of it if not for close friends whom I’m very grateful for. Leaving us alone and ignoring the depression completely is not a good idea because we can sink deeper and deeper into it.

How to Help a Depressed Friend

1. Let them know you’re here for them without being intrusive

Let them know you’re there whenever they want company, to talk, or to simply hangout quietly together (which helps a lot). Don’t press them to talk about their feelings, don’t keep asking about what makes them depressed. Just let them know that they can talk to you whenever they feel comfortable. That’s it. And when they decide to talk, you’d better stay quiet and listen.

2. Don’t invalidate their experience

I’m not talking about the “depression is not real,” “you’re just lazy,” “just get over it,” “get yourself together,” which should be obvious no-no’s.

Depression is usually coupled with nihilism for INTPs:

Dominant Introverted Thinking (Ti)

Read a lot. Read a variety of topics. Read smart. Be it fiction, non-fiction, news, magazines, or blogs - anything that allows you to analyze and build your library of knowledge. I’d say, don’t waste time on things like tabloids or facebook newsfeeds of what your acquaintances are doing. Check out my #brain food section and brain food resources for where I get my brain food.

Read things that don’t align with your point of view and analyze them. A good exercise is to read blogs or articles that give rational explanations of a point of view opposite to yours. If you’re an atheist, try reading a fundamental Christian’s argument and understand the basis of their thought process. You don’t have to agree with a value to understand where it’s coming from. In fact, the more the opposing view pisses you off and makes you want to passionately defy its logic with yours, the better.

Find loopholes/inconsistencies in research paper. This was given as assignments in one of my 3rd year human biology courses. The professor would give us a master’s degree candidate’s research paper draft and make us find loopholes in them. It was a great exercise for your brain.

Make a habit of googling things right away. If there are things you aren’t sure of that come up in your train of thoughts or during a conversation, google them right away, so that you’ll know the facts and won’t have to base your subsequent analysis on an assumption (or as soon as you can, if you’re in social situations and it could be considered rude).

Practice your spatial reasoning skills. These puzzles test your problem solving skills and visual-spatial intelligence. I loved doing these when I was little. Here’s one, and here’s another one.

Auxiliary Extraverted Intuition (Ne)

Stimulate divergent thinking i.e. a thought process or method used to generate creative ideas by exploring many possible solutions - which is the way Ne works. Try these classic creativity challenges.

Brainstorm or mind map. The goal is to generate as many ideas as possible in a short period of time. Use one idea to stimulate another idea and be creative. Don’t limit yourself with any structure.

Free write. Choose a topic and write non-stop for a short period of time. The idea is to write down whatever comes to mind about the topic, without stopping to proofread or revise.

Imagine possibilities of real life situations. I’ve described this here: Work your Ne: an INTP’s secret to being quick-witted. I’d imagine possible conversations with people I know, stock up possible come backs, and think of how I could manipulate the situations to go toward each possibility. Basically, try to cover everything that could happen to you in your imagination.

Think of different sides of someone you know. It’s hard to know every sides of someone. Maybe you know them as a friend, but not as a coworker, and you don’t know how they act with their grandfather. It’s a fun exercise to imagine what they’d be like in other situations.

Experience new things. Visit new places. You can only generate so many ideas in your own head alone - find inspirations externally. Ne cannot come up with ideas if you don’t feed it with new experiences and information to create more connections and patterns with. Art galleries and museums are great places to let your Ne explore. I always get tons of ideas after visiting these places alone (yes, go alone, so you’re not distracted by conversations and you’re allowed to use your own imagination).

Tertiary Introverted Sensing (Si)

Memory exercises. These brain training apps have many great games that exercise your memory recall.

Dream recall right when you wake up. When you’re gaining consciousness and are still lying on bed, quickly try to recall as much details of your dream as possible. If you don’t do it right then, you’ll forget within a few seconds. I find this a fun memory exercise and you always get interesting stories.

Yoga, meditation, and relaxation techniques that help you become attuned with your internal body awareness. Quoting Personality Junkie “an often overlooked role of Si is its perception of internal bodily sensations—the body as felt and experienced from within. Perhaps more than any other function, it provides access to the raw and basic sense of “being” that exists apart from thought or outward stimuli.” I find it easy to focus during meditation since I was young (I grew up in a Buddhist family), and yoga has really helped me personally to be aware of what my body can do, and how it’s linked to my mind.

Inferior Extraverted Feelings (Fe)

Think of your favorite music, art, and literature that really touched you. Try to understand why you feel a certain way while listening/looking/reading them. Which component is more memorable to you? Which word, color, or sound evoke strong feelings, and why?

Draw, paint, write, act, sing, dance, play and create music, or whatever it is that allow you to express yourself intuitively without adhering strictly to rationality and logic. Allow yourself to explore these realm and create by instinct rather than objective analysis.

Analyze the reasons you can relate to certain people and not others. How do the people you can relate to make you feel, and how are they different from people you can’t? What makes you want to spend time with certain people and not others? What do you like in people and what irritates you? Quantify these feelings into words.

Observe yourself in relation to a group. Because of inferior Fe, INTPs tend to chameleonize themselves and mirror others unconsciously. It is important to be aware of what you’re doing. Observe how you’re influenced by the tone of a group you’re in, and observe how you feel differently from them.

Recognize your own needs and stand up for them. I’ve written my advice on this here: Developing inferior Fe, How happy can an INTP really get? and it’s ok to feel ‘meh’.

Aux variant=less in control of it but more aware of it when it happens

With the dom variant, you are ALWAYS doing it and are used to it and know how to cope with it. It’s always running in the background. It’s how you interact with the world by default.

Less so for aux variants. It’s why some sxsp people sometimes are useless and make stupid decisions (compared to spsx)

Aux variants can sometimes hit a person like a ton of bricks, ESPECIALLY aux sx due to the intense nature of it. It’s why spsx often has trouble handling intense emotions on the rare occasion they happen– it goes contra to sp, and we aren’t used to coping with it.

Solomon’s Shield is the name of the app

(I suspect this question ties to mbti-notes’ occasional mention of Fe-personas in her posts; if you want her psychological explanation as to what it means, you’ll have to ask her. But here’s my interpretation.)

Who is Margaery Tyrell? She’s one way with Sansa, one way with this twit, one way with her grandmother. Who is the real Margaery? The girl who plucked a rose or told her brother to stop messing around (it’s dangerous) or the girl who trashed Cersei’s drunkenness and mocked her husband’s delight in sex in front of a dozen onlookers?

Don’t know. She’s fake.

Personas are fake selves. It’s what you want people to see or believe of you. If you wear one long enough, and devote enough time to it, you might even forget who you actually are and believe your own lies.

Because a lot of Fe-doms tend to be influencers (they use their ability to be a social chameleon to change the world) they can adopt different ‘personas’ with different people, or put on one to impress people; or hide behind one. One example is the ‘I don’t care, I do what I want’ Fe-dom, who argues that they do not care what people think, despite their every decision, aim, and focus being people-centered. This is a lie they are telling you and themselves, because everyone else is directing their behavior. How? If you argue you don’t care, then set out deliberately to PROVE IT to everyone around you, where’s your focus? On other people. Because I don’t care. ;)

In a bad enough scenario, the Fe-user would go home and… not know who they really are, or what really matters to them, or what they really care about, independent of their persona. They cease to exist. They are the lie.

The persona depends on what the Fe-user gains from it (and for the record, Fe’s are not the only ones who can adopt personas): do they want to pretend to be less sensitive? more detached? more intellectual? less insecure? Are they someone else out and about than they are at home? Are they someone else online than they are in person? (The entire internet suffers from this. :P) Are they someone else with one group of people than another?

More important is to ask yourself why you’re doing it. What do you hope to gain from it? Approval? Affirmation? Love? Friends? Power? But then ask yourself this: do you want friends or fans who like the fake you and not the real you? Do you want every interaction in your life to be superficial? Without depth?

What’s wrong with the real you? You have worth because you are unique. You have worth because you are a human being. You deserve love for who you are…

Oops. Went on a tangent. ;)

Your true self is what you do and who you are when no one is watching.

Park Se Jun. One of the best players in the world. He used a Pachirisu with Nuzzle (a move with 100% paralysis chance), Super Fang (cuts target’s HP in half) and Follow Me (a move that redirects attacks AWAY from allied pokemon), and equipped with a recently-buffed Sitrus Berry. And he turned the metagame on its head, because nobody in the championships had prepared for anything outside their incredibly restrictive expectations. Their strategies and planning were completely tripped up by an electric squirrel. Battling his Pachirisu in incredibly tight synergy with the rest of his team, Park Se Jun swept the finals and became World Champion of 2014 Doubles.

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because Alexa WILL NOT call for help unless you’ve set it up this way first!

this woman was REALLY smart to do that, because otherwise the Echo thing would’ve done nothing. don’t think your Echo will respond to “call 911″ or “call the cops/ambulance/fire department” unless you’ve set it up with the numbers first, and certainly don’t think it’ll hear sounds of a struggle and call for help without a direct command. otherwise think of how many false reports it would make just from overhearing TV and movies being on! 

also visit battleforthenet.