Educated Insolence

the hardest part about bouncing back from a depressive episode is cleaning up the mess you’ve made of your life like you can’t exactly say “sorry for ignoring you and your messages for a week, i was too busy suffering from crippling loneliness hope we’re still ok lol” right

I’m reblogging this just to say if anyone I know ever drops all contact with me for a week because they’re having a depressive episode and then comes back to try and re-establish connection afterward, I will understand.

The thing is, it’s OK if you come back slowly. It’s hard, and it’s scary, but a lot of the time, bulding the connection again is less terrifying than it first seems to be. It’s OK if you disappeared for days, or weeks, or months, or years. You won’t get it all back at once, but you can rebuild things little by little. It’s OK if the connections with some people feel easier, whereas for some people they feel like they have faded away. It’s OK that you’ve changed, and maybe they’ve also changed, and maybe it’s hard for you all to relate after Everything Happened. There have been times when I’ve dropped off the face of the Earth when it comes to keeping up with some people I really care about, because when things are bad you can only maintain so many connections and look after yourself.  And it’s always difficult learning to make an effort again, and catching up, and getting a feel for where others are after you’ve had to take time away. But you can foster relationships with people who understand that sometimes you’ll just need time to yourself, or won’t be able to deal with explaining everything that’s going on for a while. You may not become as close as you were (though most people drift over time if you can’t keep up as much), but that’s also OK sometimes. As long as you enjoy your interactions with those people after your episode, and they enjoy interacting with you, that’s what matters. Don’t let your anxiety over the fact that you had to take time out fo your health force you to end rewarding friendships that may have continued to be wonderful if you rekindled them.

i’ve seen this so many times and it just fucking gets funnier every single time it comes back. this is humor at its fuckign finest nothing else can ever top this

As someone who suffers from depression and who experiences all these things as well I think this is important and needs to be reblogged. Depression is a very difficult thing, not only for people who suffer from it, but for everyone who knows a depressed person. My family doesn’t know how to deal with it, my friends try their very best to support me and I have tried to pretend I was fine until I was in ninth grade.

Everything makes so much more sense

…. Shit.

Don’t disregard it as just sadness.  Depression is life threatening.

Exhibit A on why Mind-body dualism is shit that will hurt you - not getting mental help when needed